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I had to take another bath after step 3
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I have noticed that most ABCDs have little to no self esteem, maybe its the education upto Matric or FSc or the discrimination that these kids face in school/college.
Sara Behn Ji I dont know what to tell you, but maybe you should pray to ALLAH Mian that he gives you the strength and courage to face whatever you cannot face right now due to low self esteem.
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“Gee manay note kiya ha…” I love it when people create these assumptions.
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I hate to admit it, but FOB’s got a point. Even though it’s not a norm, but i have seen it happen.
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Sure but the same can be said of FOBs who will do anything to be Western because they’re insecure about their Pakistani identity. Anyways are we discussing the idea that Sara may have low self-esteem associated with the fact that she’s an ABCD?
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^^ No I dont think FOBs will do
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anything to be Western because they're insecure about their Pakistani identity.
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While I am very new to America I have yet to see a FOB eating Ham. I see them drink beer and alcool, but no poke. So I think SaimaNYC living in WLA you are mistaken.
By the way I didnt mean my original comment to be offensive. I am a foreign student in Stamford University and I have been invited to a few Pakistani families living in the neighbor hood, My comment was based on meeting with the kids of these families. These families are in NYC in Queens area, In Long Islands, and in Conneticut.
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^ no i dont think ALL ABCDs suffer from low-self esteem. I only agreed with part of what he said. some of these FOBs are brainwashed into thinking that white people are better than them. It is their children who grow up acting either white or black without any sense of identity. In the crucial formative teenage years, a realization that you dont or cannot have blond or afro hair results in an identity crisis oftentimes leading to lack of self-esteem and depression.
Blacks went throught the same situation in the 1960s and 70s. Many tried to assimilate, and failed miserably when they were not accepted into the white mainstream. Read Toni Morrison's "The Bluest Eye" to get an idea. You could write a treatise on this topic.
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catty unblock me from your journal....plzzzzzzzzzzzzz
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mr. game exactly how effective is it to go around calling someone an obese monster Hm?? Or to pick on them when they've never said anything to you? Yes, I'm still annoyed at that :o
Dope, i haven't read COsmo for about two years now, and I don't watch too much tV :)
FOB, I understand where you're going wtih your initial statement, but I can't say that I've been discriminated against because of who i am or where I'm from. And what do you mean by, they drink beer/alcohol (the same thing btw) but not pork? since when does diet make one insecure abou ttheir cultural identity? And stop derailing the topic! No, I dont feel low coz I'm an ABCD, end of discussion...
Dope, that may be true for others, but not for me so.. :p
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You have to do daily exercises to give yourself a confidence boost.
Here are some suggestions:
Keep a list of all your wonderful qualities on your desk.
Take all the cards and gifts you've gotten from your friends/family, and put them on your work desk and on your dresser at home - its a constant reminder that people think you're wonderful.
Do something with your life that you enjoy and that most of all, you are good at. Its a great confidence boost to know that you're doing something and that people around you realize that you're great at it.
Exercise - the endorphins really do make you happy.
Write in a journal, and get out all those negative feelings - catch is, when you close the journal, you're not allowed to think about its contents.
Don't get into relationships - they're messy and they can leave you torn...but marriage and having a family has the opposite effect.
Spend time with family members you actually like.
Stop going to desi parties. They're destructive, really, especially for girls/women.