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Theres this boy who me and my friend have known for some years now. At the start of uni he was very immature and annoying but in the time frame hes matured so much mentally that my friend has started to like him alot alot! Problem is he's got a girl who hes been with for maybe 7 months now. Shes a really sweet girl and shareef so she's ideal wife material too! My friend and the guy have been getting closer recently aandd thats treading into crocodile infested waters in my opinion.
The guy seems to send off mixed signals. He's nicer to my friend then he is to his own girl and he makes alot of effort doing things for my friend... i dunno i think hes confused. I told my friend to take a few steps back bcoz tmw ppl can easily point the finger at her saying she messed up the relationship.. everyone else hwever is telling her otherwise.. They think that finally shes found someone that is suitable and he's getting away but i dont think its fair on his girl
she herself is going to try to take a few steps back but the problem is that were going to grad ball with him when both will be dressed up (which could play heavily on emotions) andd were also planning to go up to wales for a few nights for a camping trip so its kinda hard for my friend to get over him aswell
I wanted to know ur lots opinion on the matter, to know am i from the minority that would advise her to step back and to leave him be?
I understand emotions are hard to control but what advice would u lot give me for her
How can i help her get over him coz shes constantly feeling like '****' in her own words
Faari,
You gave your friend the right advice. She needs to back up a bit because as you said tomorrow people can point fingers at her for trying to sabotage their relationship. Although, people would also have to point fingers at the guy too. But either way, your friend feels guilty because she feels uncomfortable with the idea that she might be playing a role in hurting his girlfriend who is a nice girl.
Mixed signals and little flirtations here and there mean NOTHING **unless the guy explicitly tells her that he likes her and ends the relationship with his current girlfriend. If a guy really truly is interested in pursuing a girl......he'll make it clearly known to the girl. In other words......he'll do something about it! **So unless that happens (romantic confession/ending relationship).........it's safer for your friend to assume that the guy is just being a friend. She shouldn't compromise with having a secret romantic affair with his guy behind his girlfriend's back. If he wants to pursue your friend..........he'll do it. And until he does anything.....he's just a friend and there's *no need **for her to *"decode" **his signals and try to find a romantic meaning in them.......as that will drive her crazy and it basically equates to nothing.
So she needs to back off and allow herself some space and distance from this guy to sort out her thoughts. And maybe the distance will allow him to sort out his feelings as well (if he has any for your friend). She needs to maintain a distance from this guy because he's in a relationship. Also, spending too much time with him especially when she has romantic feelings for him.............can lead to trouble.
He's a taken guy. And** if **he's leading your friend on..........that's messed up and unfair to his girlfriend. If he's no longer interested in his girlfriend, he needs to be honest with her.