women categorize.
And what are we suppose to do - take her to coffee and have a discussion with her put her in our pakeeza friends category.
The "other" woman - goes in the skanky women category.
Other woman is a perspective ..
plus some of the very pakeeza women turn out to be the 'other woman' .. its a myth that other woman comes from some prostitute category ...
The woman has no morals and neither does the man she's sleeping with. That's why they do it, cause they don't see anything wrong with it. Selfish and irresponsible on both parts.
yes! two,three,four wrongs cannot make anything right...they are either slaves of their adaats, frustration....or payback...whatever reason it maybe, the "tarazoo" is not gender biased...
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Why are you taking the other woman's side? :ASA:
I think my pakeeza category has different requirement than your pakeeza category.
The minute that she (and that goes for both genders) steps out of the "pakeeza" category and cheat - I am sorry they lose my vote and respect.
It's wrong. Justifying it doesn't make it right. As a humans and as men and women with a brains and common sense you are suppose to AVOID such encounters and feelings.
I feel in this day and age - it's so easy to cheat. Or to just divert your feelings. or Run away from issues and seek some sort of joy or thrill in another man or woman's arms/bed.
The minute that she (and that goes for both genders) steps out of the "pakeeza" category and cheat - I am sorry they lose my vote and respect.
I am not taking anyone's side ..
what you said (in red bold) is exactly my point NJ .. its not fair to blame just the guys ..
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and it's not fair just to balme the women either.
Every woman knows that if she doesn't give the right welcoming "come get me" signals - he will never make the move!
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aap ne tambaako wala paan kha liyaa hai aaj kiya 
where am I blaming the women
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I don’t do paan. I smoke weed instead. 
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Maybe she's sexually wild and wants the thrill her husband can't provide, so she doesn't want to go through this her whole life so she's enjoying while she can.
It's LUST and maybe she wants to be feel WANTED.
Most studies show it has less to do with sex and more to do with "the way the person made them feel"
I agree with njgal..
Emotional attachment.. and the women is to be blamed equally.
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Its excitement, lust, emotional instability and a whole host of things that drive people to cheat.
Most of the women that men cheat with are not even that pretty.
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Why men cheat. They got forced into marriage by their parents to some abhorrent entity that may pass itself of as a "good wife" to outsiders but makes life a living hell for the man.
Wait did I do that right?
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^ no u didnt try that again.
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Married men or married women anyone who have an affair should be condemned and be left by their spouses immediately.
I told my husband when I was engaged to him that if you ever dare to go after any other woman I'll not think for a minute before leaving you ! I told him that I will never ever come after you , or follow you or that woman , nor will I bother to know about that woman or see her. I just know one thing I cannot stand a man who has such low morals and who is so out of control that he actually goes out and betrays his wife and have an affair with other woman ...Yuck ! I will never stand such a man . I have had and can put up with other things but never with this.
In my view women who have affair with married man can have any of the following reasons:
Lust
May not be able to get married and dont mind being a 2nd wife to anyone.
Financial support
The sense of satisfaction of getting hold on someone elses husband
Are at a age where they cannot get a boyfriend who is single and they are afraid of committment so they time pass with married man.
There can be any reason on this earth. But I firmly believe what goes around comes around man and woman who involve in extra marital affairs does not deserve sincerety and love of their spouses and sooner or later it hits them back hard.
From Islamic perspective too this act is severly punishable.
May ALLAH give everyone guidance and show proper path.
I agree with njgal..
Emotional attachment.. and the women is to be blamed equally.
But I've seen that most women in such situations are so needy that normal men can't possibly meet those needs. The new guy perhaps satisfies one of the 10 needs so he looks promising, but note how when the 2 get together, even that doesn't last, ususally, because she realizes that the other 9 needs aren't being met either.
Same thing with the men.
Why men cheat. They got forced into marriage by their parents to some abhorrent entity that may pass itself of as a "good wife" to outsiders but makes life a living hell for the man.
Wait did I do that right?
Same thing for the women also?
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Bingo! There is no difference between men or women when it comes to adultry or cheating.
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^ much better, im proud of u.
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As always your praise means the world to me.
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I think some women feel they have a greater connection with the guy than the wife perhaps does. And if the guy is willing to cheat on his wife than they feel the guy also sees that greater connection.