Re: keeping your private life private at your work environment
True Lydia. People don't forgive those who change. But don't do things just to make other people happy. You will never be able to make everyone happy. Find your own comfort zone.
Keep out of the discussions where personal lives are discussed. Take part in the discussions where ideas, events, etc., are discussed. Speak when you have something constructive and positive to add. It will reduced the number of your so-called-friends, but will also reduce the number of back-bitters.