Just wondering

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good point. very important to note that what yous is true generally for married men to feel like - very posessive and actually angry when a simple mention of a male friend is brought on.

what can be considered by both sides is this:
one can't substitute rough for the diamond.
husband is has to be only one. & ethically, wife should only one, too.
cherishers might be many.
boy friend in platonic relations is not a healthy thing, since for all we women might know, the person might be selfish and insensitive, as the committment makes them a squeakly mouse. :>
or for all one might know, a man could be a husband to someother woman and violating his wife's right to honesty and loyalty.

but, to bring men to think about what they might be doing wrong in their treatment of women, mentioning a male friend as a threat or to evolke jealousy or envy sounds pretty wrong. same goes for men. :>

so if anyone wanted to speak to me, i will first of all defend his wife if he is married & i will try to patch their marriage by raising a sense of ethics in that man.
and if anyone unmarried approached me, i will absolutely ask him, go ask your Mom & Dad, first!
:>

i do hope there are mature and responsible men in this world

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There are many mature people Dushy, and many immature ones as well. I guess we have to figure out what we are and where we are heading.

But on a lighter note, there are some men and women who have great marriages but are very generous in their communication with the opposite sex. What are your thoughts on this?

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if a trust in unbreakable in marriage, then in fact a couple is a community! to me. living in fear for deceit and cheating is not a healthy approach.
if the spouse is so lowly, then she or he will do it any way.
but being present in bones and spirits of the spouse is what is essential.
there must be a reason when Allah swt that married couple is like garment on each other. imagine how intimate is a piece of cloth on our bodies and that's the simili which is given to lawful married people to each other. :>
so there is no space for distrust and there should not be fear of cheating.
being cautious is one thing, but being doubtful is wrong.

Dushwari

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Dushwari, you are a very wise young lady.

So much wisdom is defintely a blessing.

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dear Niksik,
thanks,
Dushwari :>