Judging another person

[Thornewood9]

Re: Judging another person

@salaam2k14

Who’s to decide who is doing righteous deeds and what is truth. It’s all interpretation of what those verses mean. I’ve always wanted to stay away from judging another person because I want to leave that to the Almighty, Allah, that is where everything begins and ends.

I would never be happy in this world because if I feel it is my job to tell another person if they are doing something wrong based on what I feel is right and wrong, interpreting those verses a certain way, I would constantly be judging left and right and would be alone in this world.

It makes everything so black and white, there’s no room for flaws or mistakes or self-growth.

What ever happened to putting ourselves in another person’s shoes and seeing that we have no clue what they might have gone through and what they’ve been through already.

What kind of treatment they’ve received or pain-causing, toxic people they’ve been around.

It’s so easy to make judgment calls and snide comments without thinking what that person’s been through.
No human being wants to be judged or be around that “holier than thou” attitude.

I’ve actually been brought down or drained, warn out from some of these “toxic” people that i’ve tried to “make right” or tried to get them to see why what they are doing is causing others pain. It took a lot of time and months of recovery for me to get over what they’ve caused in me. Sometimes, it’s best to stay away from the shaitaan-ish type of people instead of getting them to see the light.

Truth stands out from error. If a Muslim brother/sister are doing something haram then it is your duty as a Muslim to advise them with kind words and compassion. For example, if a Muslim you know is not reading their prayers, if they are indulging in alcohol, if they have boyfriend/girlfriend relationships, if they are backbiting about someone, etc etc. Allah is very clear on what is haram and what is halal so its not just interpretation of Qur’anic verses. Its laid out in black and white what a Muslim should and should not be doing.
It depends on how you advise people. Some people just come across as harsh and unyielding when they tell others that they are doing something wrong. That’s where the potential lies in driving another person away from Islam. And that’s wrong. The prophet pbuh had the best etiquette in advising people and we should all learn from that. If you think your attitude might push a Muslim further into sin rather than out of it then you should refrain from advising until you have bettered your attitude first or get someone else to advise them.
I have a friend who had a boyfriend and I told her that what she was doing was wrong but I didn’t stop being her friend. She ended up married to him but I didn’t drive her away or cut off our friendship because she was doing something wrong. Its how you tell people. Using the wrong words or tone of voice can come across as being judgemental.
You advise people and it is up to them to listen or not. If they don’t listen then you leave it, you don’t harp on about it.