^do u guys all know each other .. besides on GS..
haha im 5 9 .. lol..
everythings the same w/ me.. except the girls all compete for the best grades n are semi jealous over other girls bodies. and straight hair.. . but i think my desi friends are more like that than my friends at school..
the aunties are still jealous over cookin abliliities.. and now its all about where your kids going to college..
sarah- you havent hung out with desi girls for 4 years.. lucky..(where d o u live??) hahha . i kinda dont get along w/ my desi friends that well anymore..
Sarah, I found this attitude most common in high school girls. Majority grow out of it once they hit university or start working in 'the real world'. Like many others have said, it isn't limited to south east asian girls only. I've been working with females in various offices for the past 4 years. Never had any major problems with my co-workers or female bosses.
As for the girls on GS, personally, I've made quite a few very good girlfriends on this site (off the top of my head, I would say about 4 girls who I tell pretty much everything to). It's a bit wrong to judge people as insecure/jealous unless you know them personally and know the words you are reading on your computer screen come from their insecurity/jealousy.
After talking to so many women in my life, I have concluded desi women are just weird. I don’t even want to know what goes in a women’s circle. I don’t take their ‘issues’ seriously anymore nor should women themselves.
Material things, having a boy friend, physical features..woop di doo! Good for you! Pagal day putter no hon tay ....sub kuch iss dunya mein reh jana hai
Desi women are no different that any other kind…it is all the same really, it is human nature. John Hughes made an entire movie career in the 80’s on this stuff..
Wow you guys are quick to jump the gun. I mentioned desi in there once and I never said I wasn't jealous in good ol' high school. Many kids are very insecure back then, no wonder peer pressure is such a big issue for that age group.
I had guy friends but they were jealous over things that mattered more: grades, who was good at sports, careers, college acceptance. And they were less likely to hate someone they envied or gossip. As far as I have noticed, women are more likely to gossip throughout their life, while men are more likely to go out and work hard for that thing they are envious of others of.
Broad and sweeping generalization Sarah...women tend to verbalize more therefore you hear it more...doesn't mean that they don;t go out and work hard for that thing they are envious of others of.
Women are not that bad..trust me...have faith in yourself girl.
sadzz it wouldnt matter to me what strangers thought. The people whose opinions matter to me are those I respect and care about. The rest can see me in whatever light they wish to. And do I reckon I dont have such traits? na, I just think I dont give such petty traits any attention. I have more important things to worry my life over.
By the way, I've come across 2 men in my life who have been jealous of me for various reasons which I can't post here. :) They may not have behaved like women, but their actions towards me were just as destructive and hurtful.
Mehnaz yeah possessive jealous guys are also scary. shivers Hope nothing like that ever happens again. And I hope you're all fine now. No need to fret over such bad incidents. :)
(running to do my paper before sarah catches me on gs)
oh and i agree with Matsui, woman are more verbal with their opinions and whathaveyou, if we’r going to generalise, men are just as bad at gossiping and backstabbing, they do it secretly. With women you know what to expect…men are sly evil little things…but if they’r fit, then quite frankly, who cares?
I too prefer male friendship to female. but that is simply becasue my comfort level is on the whole high with men rather than with women. They are more onmy wavelenght (usually) and the girls I click with also agree.
However. Men are pretty much like women. They too compete over the loser king-crown (worse grades etc) amoungst other things. In the UK, it is unfortuantely common to spot a trend which dictates a conversive attitude to achievements. Makes you "cool" in the doll queue possibly.
