'Islam Needs a Sexual Revolution'

I think you are talking about American men, the Buddhas in their 70,s who marry teenagers from Philippine by selecting their pics on internet.

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this women is an enemy within.and no one is taking her seriously cause everyone knows she is sick

I do agree that Muslim has largely forgot what the Message of Islam is.

But Muslim is not a label that you carry.

Show me a believer and I'll show you he give other's their rights, do salah, pays Zakat etc.

But not ever person who call themseves Muslims, do Salah or pays zakat is a Muslim (you don't have to go very far reading the Quran, to find out that). Quram mentions the way these people get misleaded.

Agree..

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Eat your words.

The amount of things said about Western women in this thread is what lead 3-4 Pakistani brothers in Sydney to go on a gang-raping spree a few years back. How do people feel about that? :rolleyes:

Since when do you have the right to declare takfir?

I didn't make takfir on anyone.

Read again, all I said is the characteristics of a Muslim is defined in the Quran.
All I said is that if you want to tell me that just because a person call himself a Muslim, that makes him one, read the following Ayah;

And of mankind, there are some who say: "We believe in Allah and the Last Day" while in fact they believe not. (2:8)

Why is here any discussion about sikhs?

No you don't have to. People already know it.

There is no reality in your answer would be anyway.

So you have made up your mind anyway not to accept despite being agreed to?

The topic is about this stupid woman condemning muslims in general and Islam based on her whatever motive. You are getting on high horse for no reason here.

lol.

Again on high horse there.

No. Take it or leave it. Period.

No. No one has the right to kill anyone based on the ideology differences.

Sounds familiar though?

No they do not. You added the word serious there just to try to put weight in your argument.

What about non-serious relationship which eventually leads to broken families, broken hearts and confused children?

Agree there. generalization should not be accepted. When it comes to good or bad; east or west, north or south, all have problems.

By the way: Your writing seems you are not who you are pretending to be. I may be wrong there.


yes who ever does that needs to improve himself. and knowledgeable people do not condone such things. However, such misabuses of Islam are no different than of the west where a person can have premarital relationship.

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can i also ask you what the difference is, in practice, between a westerner who has one several-year relationship then another one which becomes a life partnership, and a muslim who marries young, gets divorced in their twenties and then marries another muslim for life?
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its the law. if you think that shariah is somehow impeding your way to a better life and more just life then no one is holding anyone back.

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they claim to be muslims. they use islam as a justification for their
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Yes. NO ONE should use islam to justify THEIR version of Islam

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well out of interest, in your opinion why shouldn't a woman lead namaz?
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law

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and its interesting that, as always the case, you're prepared to get annoyed about that yet stuff like hatan surucu just gets brushed off with a "well that's a shame; nothing to do with islam though.". interesting and sad. presumably you'd agree with the turkish schoolkid who thought it was right to kill her because "the whore lived like a german"? i mean, you wouldn't have killed her oh no no of course. but he had a point, right?
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no ones condoning any flagrant abuse.

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my point is that muslims are all too easily to condemn westerners for being so utterly vile as to have more than one serious relationship in their lives, when most of the islamic world has an appalling record as regards gender equality.
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yeh all third world and developing countries suck at social indicators. but im sure your aware of western societies ills as well.

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western world needs modesty evolution..............

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Why is here any discussion about sikhs?
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sikhs have many of the same problems regarding family-administered marriages, as they come from a very similar tribal regional culture (i.e. they can use that excuse) but they do not have the same problems keeping their young men under control as muslims seem to do.

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The topic is about this stupid woman condemning muslims in general and Islam based on her whatever motive. You are getting on high horse for no reason here.
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im not defending the woman. i’m pointing out that the over-the-top moralizing which is going on towards her is hypocritical

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No they do not. You added the word serious there just to try to put weight in your argument.
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well i was never defending non-serious relationships, so whats your point?

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What about non-serious relationship which eventually leads to broken families, broken hearts and confused children?
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well…that’s bad? my point is that muslim marriage (certainly as regards european pakis and turks, which are the two groups highlighted by this thread) has become so corrupted in many cases that its not really on to say it’s a intrinsically better system than a western free-for-all.

“muslim” marriages can collapse in a mess of broken hearts and confused children too. i have seen it happen.

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Your writing seems you are not who you are pretending to be. I may be wrong there.
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i dont understand what that’s supposed to mean, so i cant tell you whether or not you are wrong

but muslims aren’t obeying the law! two individuals each seeking out a muslim partner and investigating the prospect of a marriage through the appropriate channels in a civilized and fair way is unfortunately NOT the norm. and that at the end of the day, this corruption of the law/refusal to obey the law creates the exact same emotional turmoil that it does in non-muslim couples whose relationships collapse. its this ridiculous routine that gets played out over and over again; muslims never admit there is a problem with muslims because they just say muslims who are a problem arent muslim because they’re a problem so it’s not a muslim problem

So, are you going to start a revolution in Pakistan that protects the rights of non-Muslims?

OH hoo, its not the Saudi man complaining about teenagers marrying 70 plus, its the americans who are and then exactly doing that, rich old men buying young asian brides on internet. By the way, the saudi marriage was broken off and if i recall it was not Pakistani but some Lebanese men raping australian girls in sydney, but, i understand that all you stand for is hatred of Pakistanis.

OK. Enough of sikh discussion. The thread has nothing to do with them so no need to drag them in here, this is what I meant.

Where do you see over the top morality? Should people stop defending what they believe when a nut case start accusing on false premises?

OK. But when you tried to make it as if serious relations also have problems then obviously the answer would be that non-serious non commital relations have more problems. Read further below the response to what you wrote about arranged marriages.

This is the first time I ever heard about muslim marriage.

What do you understand of muslim marriages? Try to separate any cultural silliness from muslim marriages for a start.

Even then, you must have had unusual bad experiences or are pretending to be naive and ill-informed.

I am not going to comment on 'free-for-all' here. Simply because we cannot jump from one end to another end during discussion. Let's just stay focused.

Tell us what is your problem with muslim marriages?

Write points by points.

Sure they can. Who will deny that. But less commonly than non-serious relations or marriages on the basis of lust, infatuation, so called love at first sight, in order to give legitimacy to an unborn illegitimate child, or those purely based on monitory gain or fame.

I said I maybe wrong. So no comments for now.

You addressed this to someone else. Please allow me to give my response here.

While I agree that a quick judgment of throwing someone out of muslim-hood just because someone question something what muslims do or islam teaches is not good, but the choice of words and more importantly the solution one finds after criticizing religion speaks a lot for the real intention of the person.

Criticism for the sake of criticism and criticizing based on utter lack of even basic knowledge are not good practices.

No, it was not just Lebanese. There were two campaigns of gang rapes by both Lebanese and Pakistani Muslims.

Lebanese gang rapes were mostly situated in the western suburbs of Sydney in 2000. They were targeting white girls exclusively and expressed no shame in their disgusting behavior. And when you have a dumb sheikh from Lakemba rationalizing what they did, then yes they deserve scrutiny.

The Pakistani gang rapes were in Ashfield over a period of time between November of 2001 to June of 2002 IIRC. The Pakistani brothers justified their rape by claiming that in Pakistan, women don’t go out so it was fair game to target Aussie women. I know some people on here would be likely to blame the victim while defending these “poor” men simply because they are Muslim. :rolleyes:

So the American old man are as disgusting as the Saudis or dont you agree?

So what is the difference between these guys whether they are from Pakistan or anywhere else raping women or and Australian, American or whoever doing it. Does that mean that we go around balming the whole nation or the whole religion because of these few nutcases.

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crap
its just a lot of brain farting on the part of this old lady - who ever she is
ISLAM - is one of the most liberal religions in the world, it understands perfectly well the needs and demands of a human being. The basic principles have been distorted out of proportion, which in turn has presented the very wrong picture of islam to the rest of the world. The frame work that has been defined for the man/woman relationship is very very logical and based on common sense

We dont have to go far - Hazrat Khadijaa A.S. sent her own marriage proposal to the prophet (pbuh) - and it was accepted by the Prophet (pbuh)
Can you imagine a girl sending a marriage proposal to a man of her choice, in this present ISLAMIC society ? I think it will probably lead to "honor killing" etc.

The difference is that there have been rape cases in Europe and Australia where the perpetrators happen to come from Muslim-majority countries where women are treated as second-class citizens. When the Pakistani brothers choose to drag their own country into this mess, then the blame should go solely towards them (and anyone who defends them).

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British girl, 18, teaching in India ‘raped by two taxi drivers’ | Mail Online

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The two suspects are believed to be the cabbie and his passenger, who is also a taxi driver. Police named Rakesh Kumar and Sunil Kumar as suspects after their arrest.

Witnesses who saw the girl enter the taxi said they were in their 20s.

Doctors have conducted tests on the girl, who is believed to be on a gap year, and the police are awaiting their report.
‘An 18-year-old British woman came to the police station in Palampur and registered a complaint of rape by two persons,’ police Superintendent Atul Fuzellah said.
‘The woman was working as a volunteer in Palampur with a local non governmental organisation (NGO) called the Indian Network for Development Exchange (IDEX).’
IDEX is an Indian NGO which runs volunteer programs that help to support local communities with learning and development activities.

It is popular among gap year students eager to travel to the country."


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Whatever anyone says, raping someone is a horrible crime which has no excuse.

If anyone tries to blame muslim-majority countries then what is the excuse of 0.77 per 1000 people raping in Australia and similar rate of rape in Canada? Considering the source is valid. Last time I checked, Australia and Canada, India were not muslim-majority countries! :wink:

Rapes (per capita) by country. Definition, graph and map.

](INDIA: Teenage girl raped while she was held as bonded labourer by mill owner in Gujarat - Asian Human Rights Commission)