Re: Is Getting Married in Pak secure these days??
^what does all this black magic stuff have to do with the original question? happysoul was asking about the security in Pakistan in terms of safety, not whether people there can put curses on you.
Re: Is Getting Married in Pak secure these days??
She is getting married in Pakistan. The first CURSE would be to make a DIVORCE happen.....the second CURSE would be to put a blockage to her PREGNANCY.....
IF AND ONLY IF....SHE SHOWS OF HER MONEY OR SPENDS LAVISHLY.
Believe it or not. Please do not argue with me on this topic. Ask your elders. Been through all this.....
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its not about believing you, you're completely off topic mustanamalik. and if people put curses on you, then who is to say that they cant happen in the US, Canada or the UK? Seriously, start a new thread for all this hocus pocus crap.
to be honest, happysoul, I think that no matter how many precautions you take in Pakistan, something can always happen... so say bismillah and remember that everything is in God's hands and whatever happens is God's will.
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Happysoul you are right.Its very bad situation about the security.Especially inkarachi.
I went to Karachi and later to Lahore and Islamabad inlast summer.
Trust me whenever we used to go for shopping there always a fear and one time there was lots of firing and shopkeepers shuttered downed and start running to go home.We all ladies were so scared and how my cousin drove car home you can imagine.
I had born and lived inKarachi all my life.It was never that scary or bad in past.
There are lots of groups and I totally agree MQM ruling karachi spcially in neighborhood where middle class families resides.
My husband and bro were passing by in car There was a gentleman was robbed in front of dozens of peoples and no one had courage to do something.My bro told my hubby its normal routine .They are used to it .
There is no infulance in Defence/clifton rich areas.
I went to Lahore/Islamabad but believe me or not there was totally differenct situation.I was walking out in a big park of Lahore and was shocked how the peoples were enjoying with kid sand families,laughing running around.It was a totally different pic and seemed Lahore in not a part of Pakistan.Same was in Islamabad and Faisalabad.No fears.
Its very sad when Pakistani living abroad are feeling insecure going to their own motherland.
I also heard so many things about ''MQM'' gundaghardi.Its true they rule Karachi,took one of the young boy to the Examination center and forced him to do papers for another student.It had happened with my known family lives in Karachi.
KOI MANY YA NA MANY...Karachi situation is bad,No scurity,of jan mal and izat.I am living abroad from last 12/yrs but always worried about my sis/bro living there and tellso many tregic stories.
PLEASE pray all ALLAH bless our country.AMEEN SUMMA AMEEN.
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i kno ppl who got married in pak with no problems at all....my family have also planned that ill get married there.....my mamoo went over to ISB and lahore few months ago..he said he had to try "blend in" and jst not look like he came from abroad...ur concern is understandable....but i dont think its THAT bad.....
My khala was in Gujranwala a few months ago too....she was having a great time shopping and enjoying herself.....
but im not sure i have mixed reactions from different ppl.....Allah behtar jaaney..... :)
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So many people living in Pakistan...rich or poor and so many of them are getting married...they don't go to other countries to get married now do they...but obviously if you're rich you can afford some kind of security if not then just have to go with it...
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Thats what i told my experience that Punjab side is much better than Karachi.Peoples freely go for shopping and enjoy.
what I feel coz there is no punjabi and hindustani discrimination things.No MQM or punjabi ,hindustani issues there.Everyone living with peace no matter which province,language they belong to.
I am sure its due to MQM CRIMINALS are active/influences there and ruining Karchi peace.Karachi use to be city of lights and joy and there was a time peoples used to come from small cities making money and support their familes.Now situation has changed alot and discrimination is one of the big issue.If you belong to any other province you can get in trouble any time anywhere.Kidnaping,asking ransom money,killing youg boys who refuse to invlove their criminal activities.
If some one doesn't agree give me the reason.
ITS AN UGLY TRUTH.
Re: Is Getting Married in Pak secure these days??
First off - congratulations on your upcoming shaadi Happysoul! May allah only bring you health, wealth, love and happiness in your marriage inshAllah :) My biggest advice to you is to FOCUS ON ALL THE WONDERFUL AND HAPPY ASPECTS of this joyous event!!! All of my blood relatives live in Pakistan as well and you are a VERY LUCKY GIRL to see them soon and have them all a part of your wedding.
I live in the US and just like most people, do have concerns whenever visiting Pakistan. But this has never stopped me from visiting whenever I can (every 2 years). My parents go back every 6 months. People have given you great advice so far. Do not go out of your way to be show offy when you are out and about....try to blend in. In an airport, dont be keeping your non-paki passport out for too long, dress in simple shalwaar kameez, and dont have your flashiest accessories on you. No one will suspect that you are from abroad.
When you go shopping, it is better to go with a couple people. If you can get a male relative to come along, even better. But not a big deal if you dont have a male with you. Just make sure you have a male that is dropping you off and picking you up. Avoid public transportation. I think it is also smart if you carry a purse that has a zip (so no one can sneakily try to grab something out of it) ...and also best kind of purse is the kind that is tightly under your arm. So not one that you are carrying in your hand or hanging quite low. It makes it harder for someone to snatch it that way.
Wear minimal gold jewelery and designer things. Simple shoes and sunglasses and such will go along way when roaming about. Blend in, blend in, blend in. Before I go to Pakistan, I usually have my khalaa have 3 or 4 simple shalwaar kameezes made that I can wear when I go to the bazaar or someone's house. She makes it so its the latest fashion and material in the market. It makes it seem less likely that I am from abroad. When discussing things in shops, try to do so in a soft voice and try to speak in urdu. Let an aunt or cousin that is living in Pakistan do all the haggling and negotiating with the store owner. I say this just for the sake of so that you do not get ripped off. Bazaar people think people living abroad have money growing on trees or something and its annoying.
I do not know where in Pakistan you are planning on visiting. But it never hurts to make yourself aware/familiar with the area and do some research about it. That simply helps in making smarter decisions in general about how to behave, places to avoid, etc. etc. etc.
As for the Taliban, maafia, kidnapping, terrorist attacks, etc........... well those things are out of our hands in my opinion. You can only pray and put your trust and faith in Allah. Remember that it is a country full of people that consider it their home and live there every day. And because our luved ones are there - we can not avoid it either. It might be smart though to avoid having your reception at a hotel like Marriot, etc. There are luvely banquet halls or as another girl mentioned - put up a tent.
And as for the "curse" thing... i dont think happysoul was thinking about that in regards to security. Mabey she was..who knows. But there is no point to scare her about it. Once again - have a strong faith in Allah and pray. And if you believe that someone has cursed you or has reason to curse you, read the "three kuls" to yourself. inshAllah you WILL BE FINE.
SO PLEASE - focus on all the happy things in regards to your wedding and visiting your luving relatives. Be smart and have faith in Allah and you will be fine. Remember that people live in pakistan all the time and that people visit Pakistan all the time. My dad is leaving himself for a visit in 4 weeks :) May allah keep both of you safe ameen!
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THANKS a billions for all your advices and sugesstions.This board is full of wise and helpful ppls.I hope all will go very well.
I am also in USA and counting days to see my family there...Pray for you dad for safe and sound joyful trip....Lve u all.
Lol! so you are tryna say if we go to someone’s house we have to make sure we have our food with us ? thats plain ridiculous
No one has so much time to do tht kind of things on you unless there is some sever historical dushmani between families 
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eid mubarak to all
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Aminas, it takes 1 minute to mix that stuff in food! It destroys one within six months and after effects remain for 5 years. I tried 3 suicide attempts and kept myself locked in room for over 6 months. strange things used to visit me during night. can’t tell everything…a stage came when I was unable to go to bathroom.
When I visit someone, if things are from bakery (biscuits, cake, etc) I take but if it is home cooked food, I never take.
This is 100% true friends