Never really understood why skin tone is considered so important by some sections of society but it's not just restricted to Indian society. Over there it might be skin bleaching, over here it's skin tanning or dyeing brown/ginger hair blonde.
And i agree with mehnaz that it's time Indian and Pakistani media started to include some darker hued types in their films or dramas for varieties sake. I mean come on, it gets tedious looking at all these china white faces all the time. The odd Makrani here or there would make a nice change.
I will say it again why we r always ashamed of the very things that are our own including color etc. One of my friend is also married to an african american girl and they are having a perfect marriage.. if we see deeply we are more racist in term sof color than any people in the world.. I would blame more women in this regard - always looks for gori bahu. and theybreject outrightly when they ssee darker skin and dont even bother to look in the personality..The fashion industry and media have certainly contribued in this taboo.. its high time we change this perception ..
Exactly degad.. desi society in general is heavily racist against the darker skinned.
I was reading an interesting point of view the other day by Yasmin Alibhai-Brown, a British desi journalist who's family was expelled from Uganda along with that country's entire desi population.
She said that the desis deserved to be expelled from Uganda because of the strongly racist attitude they held towards the majority, black, population.
i state this with the utmost respect and no intention of being rude/mean/impolite in my question, to anyone. Period. i am wondering… how many of the males who have responded to this thread, would happily marry someone who is far darker than them, let’s say she is black-skinned and manifestly is an honest, God-fearing Muslim with whom the guy & his family get along superbly? Her skin colour is extremely dark. If the guy’s family was agreeing to the match, would the guys who have responded in this thread be willing to marry her happily (and yes, her personality is fantastic, she’s spiritual and an honest Muslim)?
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If the guy's family was agreeing to the match, would the guys who have responded in this thread be willing to marry her happily (and yes, her personality is fantastic, she's spiritual and an honest Muslim)?
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haan bai bolo guys?
We all know what is right and politically correct to say... It is quite annoying to read text book answers.
I would had certainly married dark skinned girl without a thought if such a case had arisen..Its my personal view -I have many african american friends who are girls.. I mostly attend jumah at a mosque maintained by African american muslims.. how many somalian , sudanese and other black muslims are around us and we never bother to communicate more..
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I would had certainly married dark skinned girl without a thought if such a case had arisen..Its my personal view -
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...without a thought? :) personal view eh...ok fair enough...how do you think your family would have reacted?
I think it takes a lot of maturity to understand the big picture and look beyond what is apparent.
The way our ‘arranged marriage’ system is setup, I highly doubt anyone would go for a ‘commodity’ (if I may) that is less appealing.
^ cultural biases, religious biases....... all the same crap. Some people can only marry hindus, some only muslims..some only light skinned, some olive skinned. Same issue..different bias. Get your siht straight and marry people whom you love. Religion, color of skin, etc are idiotic categories.
...without a thought? :) personal view eh...ok fair enough...how do you think your family would have reacted?
I think it takes a lot of maturity to understand the big picture and look beyond what is apparent.
The way our ‘arranged marriage’ system is setup, I highly doubt anyone would go for a ‘commodity’ (if I may) that is less appealing.
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I already said if the situation had arisen that means if I liked any black girl.. my families reaction would had been same as for white or black .. i personally prefer black girl to white since i like darker color of skin but many may not like it... for me white is much more less appealing that black.. but our main problem is the discrimination we do while marrying our own peopel and going for fairer color! while we accuse white people of discrimination we do a lot more than that..
Mehnaz, i remember that quite well Sorry, i didn’t mean to open a can of worms
As Boss stated, it’s quite one thing to state something politically correct… It’s quite another to go against our society’s unwritten rules by marrying someone who is ten shades darker than one’s self… i shudder to think what type of comments some Aunties would pass about the ‘kharaab’ skin colour of the couple’s children.
Degas, i wish more desi guys (AND all Aunties) thought that way. Sadly you are in the minority. But nice to know at least a few individuals believe that way.
i am wondering… how many of the males who have responded to this thread, would happily marry someone who is far darker than them, let’s say she is black-skinned and manifestly is an honest, God-fearing Muslim with whom the guy & his family get along superbly? Her skin colour is extremely dark. If the guy’s family was agreeing to the match, would the guys who have responded in this thread be willing to marry her happily (and yes, her personality is fantastic, she’s spiritual and an honest Muslim)?
Sorry, i didn’t mean to open a can of worms 