Do we have to tell her out debt even if she doesn't ask? What if someone was a student and had a student loan of 200k, wouldn't that scare potential girl away
you should tell her about your debt because marriage should be based on honesty. if she runs away after hearing that, do you really want to marry someone who is running away from you because of a debt? what if she leaves you after getting married and hearing you have a loan and you hid that from her? i knew my husband had student loans since hes a doctor, but that didn't scare me away. if he hid that from me, then i would have been really mad.
My husband did tell me prior to marriage about his debt which was student and otherwise and he wasn't in a very high earning profession like a physician either. It made me prepared for how we were to live our life and how to budget to make sure the debt is paid off fast.
As regards scaring the girl away, most desi girls will be happy to marry a physician and people know that medical students have a lot of loans. Doctors make a lot of money especially if they plan to go into specialization ( and even otherwise), in the US and as long as you have a plan it should be all good.
Do we have to tell her out debt even if she doesn't ask? What if someone was a student and had a student loan of 200k, wouldn't that scare potential girl away
When my husband and I got married, he did not have a job and I was paying my student loan. We knew we would be starting from scratch and will have to work our way up. Alhamdulilah, we have been blessed with more then we thought/asked for.
Be honest with each other, cherish each other, and support eachother.
Money comes and goes. Mary a person who will support you in your good and bad times.
What regrets I have in this area, it doesn't matter how much you make, it matters how much you spend. Make sure you keep your expenses and lifestyle in check, my income steadily grew and so did the lifestyle and expenses, I will make 350k plus this year and still feels like I am broke. If I was to start all over again, I would save a lot more. I will end up okay though as I have some investment properties.