Re: In Law Challenges
Rani I can really empathise as this may be me in a few months. It’s very important to set boundaries. So at my in laws when I am in my room I make sure the door is locked and they get the message so now no one disturbs me if I go to my room. Wrt the cleaning and mess talk to your husband, hire a cleaner who comes in and deals with the communal mess. You are a human too and deserve some time to rest and relax. When my BIL comes to visit I clean the room before and after he arrives, anything in between he does himself as I work very long hours and there is only so much I can do. Right now my husband shares a great deal of house work with me, e.g. He does the cooking while I do the cleaning, I am expecting this to change once the MIL moves in with us as she will have a heart attack to see her Ladla in the kitchen, but that would mean that we would have to get more take aways as I can’t come home after an 11 hour work day and then be expected to do 100% of the housework.
think small steps and don’t let it overwhelm you. And pick your battles but make sure they are non-negotiable. Wish you best of luck. Joint family can be good if everyone pitches in, but it is very unreasonable and unfair to expect one person to cater to the needs of a dozen which is what usually happens.
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I agree. Try taking such small steps. And try and sit down with hubby and explain in a really nice way some of the most difficult things that you having trouble adjusting with.
Hope u figure it out.