If a friend of yours has been nasty to you and out of doubt has called you names and caused oodles of heartache, and sends you flowers 2 days later.. do you forgive them or send the flowers back?
Hi Gina,
Most of us (even the calmest of us) have occasionally lost our cool and acted in a way that we've regretted. It takes courage to conquer your ego and sense of shame and apologize to the victim after realizing your mistake. Lately there have been a few threads about people who NEVER apologize even when they** KNOW** they are wrong because they can't let go of their pride.
I will say that if a person is CONSTANTLY crossing their limits and behaving disrespectfully, then in such a scenario, it's best to either ditch the individual completely or maintain a distance. I've had to let go/decide to avoid "friends" who been rude several times and then don't even have the decency to apologize.
On the other hand.......if this friend of yours is USUALLY a nice person and has recently let her anger get the better of her................and has managed to offer a sincere apology..............then try to be the bigger person and forgive her...especially if you feel that this friendship that is not worth losing.