Re: If your dad took a second wife..
Your dad?
I'd help my mom take him to court and take everything he's got. And make sure he's miserable. And then find a way to break the second marriage. And then make sure he never married again.
Oh, and I'd make sure he's out on the streets.
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Oh yes. He knows it too. In the past, when he did get into fights with her, and there were threats of "oh i'll move out" etc. I got fed up one day, and told him all the above, and after that he cut it out completely.
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^ i see
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so…parents should not ever interfere with their adult childrens’ decisions (marriage etc)…but children should ??
Interesting thoughts 
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When it comes to supporting my mother than just try and stop me interfering. If my father was ever to act in such a selfish and disrespectful way to my mother (yes, that is what I think about this), the women has given her life for him, then he'd get the PCG treatment. And I'm closer to my father than my mother.
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I really hate when you do that, okaiee?? 
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There is an obvious difference ie. children’s choice of partner often doesn’t affect the parents in any practical or day-to-day way.. (like dad being ‘missing’ for 50% of the time whilst kids are growing up in the case of him taking another wife)
There’s a difference in ‘interfering’ in situations just for the sake of it and in those where the decisions actually affect the ppl in question..
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Isn't the premise of taking a second wife based upon the fact that the husband should be able to treat both his wives equally in terms of wealth, respect, love etc? It's a rare man that can do that and if you find him then why not?
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Some ppl need to learn about** logic and common-sense instead of obsessively making ridiculous **tit-for-tat statements all over the place..
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**Isn't the premise of taking a second wife based upon the fact that the husband should be able to treat both his wives equally in terms of wealth, respect, love etc? **It's a rare man that can do that and if you find him then why not?
Yeah.. if more guys did that and there were less lies involved (eg a secret gf becoming the wife) and the wives and children were treated better am sure more ppl would be open to it.. My SIL's uncle has two wives and they seem ok with the arrangement, well on the surface at least.. Their kids are v.young tho.. I think it gets a lot more complicated as the children get older (esp the teenage yrs)..
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Did he divorce his first wife?
No he is still married to first wife :(
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There is an obvious difference ie. children's choice of partner often doesn't affect the parents in any practical or day-to-day way.. (like dad being 'missing' for 50% of the time whilst kids are growing up in the case of him taking another wife)
There's a difference in 'interfering' in situations just for the sake of it and in those where the decisions actually affect the ppl in question..
Hypothetically, if your dad were to get a young russian mail order bride, then how does it affect you if you say you are independent?
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Hypothetically, if your dad were to get a young russian mail order bride, then how does it affect you if you say you are independent?
In every case I've ever come across of it involving desi men there is at least 1 kid (usually more) still living at home and needing his support when dad decides to get wife no.2.. Also, in these typical traditional families (not like the modern ones are into it, is it) the wives usually don't work either. Wife not earning, kids growing up without dad at least 50% of the time, wouldn't that impact the whole family??
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So, you agree that interfering in his (dad's) life is out of the question if the kids are independent. I guess I was just surprised by how far a certain member would make her dad miserable in post 22, when it seems she is not a little kid who needs her daddy.
The situation you mentioned is one I agree with i.e. that the husband should think using his brain not the other part down below. It is one thing flipping your wife, but it is a whole different thing that you screw up your children's life for no fault of their own.
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If you have a dad that is ehfbjehwbgjrehg it would be a blessing. Therefore, as long as he were to live with the other woman, and financially supported his first family, I'd be one HAPPY child.
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Is this deja vu??
I think I have just answered a similar thread
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In every case I've ever come across of it involving desi men there is at least 1 kid (usually more) still living at home and needing his support when dad decides to get wife no.2.. Also, in these typical traditional families (not like the modern ones are into it, is it) the wives usually don't work either. Wife not earning, kids growing up without dad at least 50% of the time, wouldn't that impact the whole family??
so..
1.single mom....doesn't work.....no job......has kids.....divorced..............
vs
2.first wife........doesn't work.......no job.......has kids.........not divorced gets Financial assistance 50% of the time
which is worse??
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^Divorced women do get financial assistance (here in the UK anyway) and not like it's hard to go out and work..
I would think women trapped in bad marriages would be just as unhappy as divorced women, perhaps moreso as they may not have any hope of their partner loving them whilst the divorced women can (in theory) meet someone else who will..
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Nomi you have a valid point here
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Hahahah...No mention of Islam by the modern, hip and happening Mullahs of Life1?
Let me open a thread about living with inlaws or taking your husbands and see how every Tom, Dick and Harry acts like an Islamic scholar who doesn't even go toilet without reciting 10 different duas.
Surely change of your last name or living with inlaws is considered a grave sin Islam than disowning your father or wishing him all the worst just because he took a second wife - a totally halal act.
Well interesting to know this site is full of underage kiddos who still need their daddy's lap and wallet.