If your child..

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I would be ashamed of myself.

If my son were to marry into an Abrahamic religion...its still okay Islamically so I wouldnt oppose it necessarily. I would prefer a Muslim bahu but if Islam says its okay...who am I?

If its my daughter, tangay tordungi. Just kidddddding! Im not sure what I would do if its my daughter, Inshallah I wont have that issue.

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I would be ashamed of myself.

If my son were to marry into an Abrahamic religion...its still okay Islamically so I wouldnt oppose it necessarily. I would prefer a Muslim bahu but if Islam says its okay...who am I?

If its my daughter, tangay tordungi. Just kidddddding! Im not sure what I would do if its my daughter, Inshallah I wont have that issue.

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let us see what Gs women and there are plenty on this forum] - who are okay with the concept of a muslim female marrying with non muslim male say about it :)

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lol..so far it's only people who aren't parents yet replying. It's not so easy to just push your child away, regardless of what he/she does.

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^Yeah, I can’t imagine most people actually going thru with properly disowning or cutting off their kids permanently.. not of our generation anyway.. I would have thought a lot would wait and see what happens (could even just be a ‘phase’ they’re going thru) unless they’re trying to ‘recruit’ their siblings to their new religion as well or something :emmy:

I don’t think it’s possible to make ur child believe in something just because you do (if they’re smart anyway).. the bright ones will naturally question things, they just need the right answers at the end of the day.. If mine said he/she wanted to convert I would try and get to the bottom of** why **they think the way they do, tell them to do lots of reading up on it and direct them to a sympathetic imam who could perhaps answer all those questions in their head and try and guide them.. I think in these situations lashing out or threatening to cut ur kid off early on can have a worse effect and possibly drive them even further away, with no hope of returning.. Whatever happens I’d always leave the door open, if they do end up leaving Islam it’s not like they might never revert back again..

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^Yes.

Parenthood makes people much much more forgiving and malleable.

The hot headed attitude and black/white statements that we carry around in youth and that is apparent here in this thread don't always last.

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You guys dont know me mother :teary2:

She would Aaq me from everything for sure :frowning:

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I would be heartbroken and look for all the things we did wrong that led to weak faith.

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I will be very very upset .

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In both cases, I'd be very disappointed but I don't think I'd end up 'disowning' them.

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I dont have kids :( , make me some so I can analyze the situation and tell you my superior thoughts.... :P

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It's easier said than done :)

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Interesting to see some of the replies made by “liberalls” heres my take on the matter.

I intend to obviously raise more than one child, so if one of my sons broke off and went his own way, despite all I had taught him. It would be ultimately my failure so since he is determined with his choice I would let him go… painfull as it is he cannot be riened in and I know this. I would simply do what my father did to me… leave him nothing… let him find his own path.

If a duaghter went astray it would be terrible… again I would be tempted to destroy the source of my pain… but as it’s my child I would have to let her go… I would probably go on to find solace in my work. :frowning:

Hahaha but it most likely wont happen becuase if my offspring have anything like thier fathers talents, few would dare form a relationship with them in the first place… wolves are wolves. Chances are my own children will probably smash the first person that tried to fall in love with em.:faris:

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Simple... jab us ki belief itni weak hai ke he/she wants to convert, there is nothing you can do, force won't strengthen their belief i believe.

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[quote="Shak09, post:36, topic:237184"]

came to you and said that they wanted to:

a) marry a person of other religion
b) convert themselves

How would you deal with it?/QUOTE

whats wrong with the religion they have .. and if they followed their religion they wouldnt be in this sittuation..

get out and dont even look back... the reason one muslim has a rishta/relationship with another is because of deen ..deen i Islam..and if this factor no longer exists they the rishta too is terminated... eg .. the sons of Nooh AS drowned cos they didnt acccept the religion of their father....and they went and climbed the highest mountain believing that the flood wont affect them but if the religion factor is not there .then theres no baap beta rishta.

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Yes Islam does allow it .. but where are you going to find the TRUE Abrahamic Religion believers TODAY.. and secondly .. The Concept is Islam is that ..Once another Nabi /Prophet is sent ..then it IS Fard to follow the shariah of the prophet of the time.. Only then marriage is allowed into them. i.e. Abrahamic Religion believer, Now in time of Prophet SAW ..He / She Should Accpt the Shariah of Prophet SAW..Hence makes him/her a Muslim. Why do u think we have an issue with the Ahmadi ..<< this is the root cause of it..

son or daughter .. In BELIEF everyone is same in Islam ..if boy went astray and girl went astray rules apply to both equally ..as murtad.

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As far as I know someone should not convert their religion to islam just cause they wanna get married to a muslim but they should convert for the their love or interest in the religion.

In both of these situations

a) marry a person of other religion- Yes and no
b) convert themselves-NO

Islam allows men to marry a non-muslim woman but who is an ehle-kitaab (follower of one of the four religions introduced by god). But i'd like to marry them a muslim so I'll try to tell them/explain them via every way i can but still if they are gonna do it then i'll perhaps i'll accept it. For girls it will a be a no.

as for converting yes it will be a no whether its boy or girl and if still they are gonna do it then probably i'll tell them to leave my house. All in all i will give my kids proper education so that such situations never arise.

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FBI...not to argue or anything but where do you find TRUE MUSLIMS today??? I dont know anyone that follows Islam in their everyday life to the T.

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Reha meet FBI86 he is a legend. :k:

Honestly few people follow Islam to the book but that does not mean that there are not such people in existence.

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its their life.
that said, for the marriage part, it would probably be ok...
converting? Id be incredibly sad very disappointed...but hopefully, with the right guidance, they would come around and not do it. But most importantly, I owuld ask WHY. If their is a reason behind the decision, it needs to be discussed.