Re: Husband sends all his money back to Pak
Thanks for your advise everyone it's greatly appreciated. I have decided that the next time he sends money I will involve not only my family but also our common friends that arranged our marriage I don't have to put up with this anymore I'm done handling this. Inshallah this problem will get resolved with family interference this is the only problem I have with my husband otherwise he is good guy
Re: Husband sends all his money back to Pak
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—“O People, it is true that you have certain rights with regard to your women, but they also have rights over you. Remember that you have taken them as your wives only under Allah’s trust and with His permission.** If they abide by your right then to them**** belongs the right to be fed and clothed in kindness****.”**
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Re: Husband sends all his money back to Pak
Its really crazy, i can so feel for you. i used to work and take care of all my things but now i am not working and its such a crap looking towards my husband for all my needs and he doesnt fullfill it with open heart it always end up in fights but still i get what i want in th end...at least he doesnt send all his money to his parents he used to send alot and theni told him if he did that again i will divorce him lol that worked....but on a serious note u really need to get someone involved who he really listens to and i have heard not giving money to wife but fathers are always very generous when it comes to their kids, you should tell him that he sends money to his parents coz they took care of him so how will his face his child in a few years when he grows up and is deprived of his small needs and wishes :( dont be afraid when something is wrong it is wrong and you have been dealing with it for 4 years you need to take a stand for your self and that doesnt mean divorce because as u mentioned ur husband is a nice guy otherwise but just figure this issue out as soon as possible coz life gets very miserable when it comes to money between spouses.
Re: Husband sends all his money back to Pak
Involving family and common friends is definitely a good idea.
If that doesnt do anything, take your kid with you to your parents and tell him to get his act together.
By the way, you can always embarrass him. Arrange for a dinner with a mutual friend and dress yourself and your kid in the shabbiest clothes you can find. Let him try to explain to the friend why the kid is dressed that way.
Re: Husband sends all his money back to Pak
Talk to him in language he understands. Obv this concept of paying back his parents is drilled into his head so turn it around on him. Discuss how his parents must have taken very good care of him, saved for his education, always spoiled him with clothes and toys so now he is such a good son. Once he is in agreement with you, talk abt how you must do the same for your child so he can take care of u n husband in it old age and be a good son. Tell him abt high cost of education and have him open up a savings specifically for ur son. Atleast it will get the ball rolling.