How would you have handled it?

[salaam2k14]

Re: How would you have handled it?

@StrangeOne

No, that is not normal behaviour.

Yes, there can be a tug of war over furnishings and mil can be sensitive if the first thing new bahu does is change her newly installed furnishings which mil chose for her new bahu.

But years later who gives a rat’s ass. If after so many years people are still using furnishings as a power struggle then it’s shows off how immature some people are. Any dude making a fuss over this has the mental maturity of a toddler throwing a tantrum. The tantrum is just a symptom of bigger underlying issues which wife needs to resolve first.

In this particular situation the bahu is not new, they have been married for 2 years by now but the house was newly bought.

There are women that can handle a situation like this.

The mother in law buys 20-30 clothes from Indonesia for the grandchild and they have to be put on the child or else the husband acts like well the exact same way as he does about anything else she buys. Everything is done for her.

If they are all traveling together, if the grandchild is 4-5 with constant bathroom breaks and visiting 5 places in one day, especially in Pakistan where there might not be fences to protects kids from running off mountains(when climbing them) or rest areas, is too much according to the wife who suggests the trip be shortened so the child can be considered, it’s responded to with anger and no compromise in sight. Kids that age are very active.

What do you mean by bigger underlying issues and how would a wife who is seen as such an outsider resolve them? He’s an only child.

Marriage does not seem like much fun in any way shape or form when I put myself in the wife’s place. I would be a horrible candidate for marriage.