How would you have handled it?

[salaam2k14]

Re: How would you have handled it?

@Theorist

Heh. My MIL moves stuff around every time I am gone out of town or if she is expecting guests. I find it really annoying and move the stuff back to their original place. Sometimes right in front of her to get the message across but nope, it continues to happen. She is not some evil MIL either but yes things like that could result in a power struggle. My husband doesn’t care and says do whatever you want. Yes, it is OUR house. We bought it. If the house you live in belongs to your inlaws, it is their right to do what they want with it. If you bought it, it is yours to do whatever you want with it.

In this particular situation the house was bought by her and her husband and the in laws visit. To make her relationship with her mil stronger she said that her mil can decorate it too but saying that got her mil to decorate almost every room. Some suggestions were just silly like she wanted to put a curtain in the entrance of a room. The wife wanted a change after 1-2 yrs in relation to the curtain in the master bedroom the room the husband and wife sleep in not after a month like assumed here. No comforter matched the color and style of the curtain. I helped her look for something to match it.

The decorations are still there in the same place.
How do you word it with your mil or husband so he does not feel strongly about this and she respects your choices? I think it takes a special touch to be able to get the husband to not care or not act aggressively in relation to a change.