Re: How to tell parents about their kids
done! and yeah we have some of those issues too.
write down ur issues in the other thread and i'll share what we do.
Re: How to tell parents about their kids
This is a toughie.
I went to an Islamic school from 8th to 12th and they got pretty tight on this stuff. We had assembly every morning and in assembly our hands, nails (for nailpolish and dirty nails), shoes, uniforms, etc were checked and inspected. Parents were notified beforehand when we registered that this would be happening.
I remember one day getting caught with make up on during sophomore year and was told to wipe it off right away and come back. It wasnt just one time though, I was obviously a repeat offender so there were always wipes on hand.
I know it sounds like jail or something but it worked...
Re: How to tell parents about their kids
See an fulltime Islamic School can do that...but humara chota sa madrassah isn't going to get any support...or maybe we should try?
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You should try Niks...teaching our kids proper hygiene, nails cut short, brushing their teeth, appearance being tidy, etc...its important.
You can introduce it as something new you're doing to teach children cleanliness and get them kind of into it too. You can give them points or stars or something else even.
I even cut my nieces and nephew's nails for my sisters if I see them growing a bit. I dont want them going somewhere and have someone else notice the same things I do.
Kids cant help getting dirty, its part of their DNA so you cant really blame them. But parents should be watching these things.
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^^ exactly, and that's why I'm not upset with the little kidos. Their parents should take some time out. I have little kids too and I'd be embarrassed if they were walking around smelling bad, especially knowing that we are teaching them taharat, a key essential towards bigger things...like wudhoo and ghusl and salat which they will be learning at the next level. The thing is that the kids all know what they should do...we even have this poem form the curriculum regarding basic cleanliness and how to do istinjaa, cutting nails, miswaak, etc...but it stops there. I've asked kids why they don't go home and tell their moms to cut their nails and most often you'll hear them say that she didn't get the time.
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Thats sad. I know parents are working hard to raise their kids and I am certainly no one to judge but a bath, clean clothes and cut fingernails are the very basics right?
It bugs me so much when I see dirty fingernails on kids because they lick their fingers, bite their nails and...uff :(
(I havent heard someone say the word *istinjaa *since my nani was alive!)
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I don't think newsletter will work,,they will have loOk like any other paper.I think u should call all parents onE day and give a lecture with Hadees and also mention them when a kid is not well dress or poor hygiene it shows that how his or her mother is careless about them,
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Hmm good suggestion...like a general get together with the parents?
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oh, how i dreaded sunday school :hinna:
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Yes,this way you are not saying directly to anyone,it will be like Samjdhar ke lye Ishara hi kaffi Hota hai,..
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Thanks for so many nice suggestions. I'll run them by other teachers and come up with some plans.
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I think it's better to be direct than send a general statement.
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Tell them lazy ass parents to do their jobs properly. I used to get in so much trouble if I was dirty/messy from the parents/
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I will say Niksik that parents dont read or pay attention to notices that go home with the kids.
My niece is in Islamic school right now and they bombard with so much paperwork and emails its hard to tell which is just a general memo and which deserves attention.
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I teach at a school too... And dirty nails are just eeewwww.. even i was curious to know, how to tell parents about cleanliness.
I'm thinking about telling them directly in a nice and polite way!
Good Luck Niksik.
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what we do is that we teach the kids about taharah and istinga and how important cleanliness is in islam. it's a whole unit, in where there is a test as well. Teach the kids that it is disliked to have bad breath while praying, for example. The kids come in uniform (green bottoms and white tops) and after every class there is a general assembly and shaykh sometimes talks about good hygiene, clean clothes, etc. Stress that the masjid is Allah's home and when we come to Allah's home we shoudl be in our best appearance.
Seeing that you have kids as young as 4, unfortunate as it might be, sometimes u just have to tell the parent face to face (when they pick up their kid) about the issue but in a way not to offend them.
I was gonna say this too...
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Yes but how can you say something like this without offending the parent?
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I had this issue only once with a 5 year old so I took him on the side and told him that his nails were dirty and that if he wanted me to talk to his mommy about it so no one will make fun of him.. he agreed so when his mom came to pick him up, I took her on side as well and said I noticed H's dirty nails and wanted to bring it to your attention before any kid says anything to him to hurt him... considering kids say such things to each other alll the time, like oh you smell bad or there is a stain on your shirt etc etc.... she didnt say anything at that time and I really thought I had offended her but I never saw that kid with dirty nails again!!!
One on one approach will be my suggestion... you can put it in the words as in you are helping them being embarassed by strangers just because you are so close to the kid or the parent!
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anything at all can be said without offending parents.....all you have to do is find a creative way to position it.
but first things first.....have a private conversation with the child....explain to them in a very mature and adult way that they need to look after themselves......encourage them to seek a parent's assistance with the parts they cannot do themselves.
I would also have some new toothbrushes and toothpaste handy. If I noticed that a child needed to brush and wash then I would send them off to do so......discreetly of course.
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OK BREAKING NEWS:
So I pulled aside one of the parents yesterday and told them that “we’re doing a special on taharat in class and we’re going to have the kids parade to show off their clean clothes and fingernails…could you make sure xyz is all cleaned up for the next class? I’m letting all parents know.” The lady was very responsive and said that she’ll definately make sure she checks her kid before sending them to school next time.
Thank you folks for your suggestions…it was easier than I thought 
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