What I am trying to say is that the collision or planet formation can and sometimes do happen at the same time. They don’t have to be two separate unrelated events. Collisions can and do happen during planet formations and planets still get their shape although the process is delayed. This doesn’t defy your theory of finding lunar surface to be richer in heavy minerals than the earth.
Maybe I am not saying it right. Let me try again. The similar mineral makeup can be caused by either collisions with the planet or the left over dust from the planet formation. Whether a collision happens during planet formation or after, it vaporizes whatever surface it comes in contact with. That dust shoots up into space that could or could not form another celestial body. Whether that dust is the result of planet formation or a collision, it doesn’t really matter. The end result is similar. Again, it doesn’t go against your theory.