Re: how many of you were forced
The grass is greener on the other side. Punjabis try to speak Urdu, Urdu speaking try to English, English try to speak Spanish/French, and so on. Personally, I would have a hard time teaching my kids Punjabi (how to speak part) because my wife does not speak Punjabi at all. She understands it but she is an Urdu-Speaking. I don’t want to confuse my kids between Punjabi, English, and Urdu. So, I’ll just teach them Urdu at home, school will teach them English. When they see their father and his family talk in Punjabi, I am sure they will pick it up without being pressurized to understand it.