anyways so far the gay men ( i do not have any lesbian friends) i have met are extremely good to talk to. they can go on for hours and hours on any topic. desi gay guys know more about fashion than do most desi girls and have a better sense of style. Attia you are right they think like girls minus the bitch factor…lolz.
actually i was hoping kaleem uncle would give us some feedback too :(
I interact with fornicators, and even those who admit/brag about cheating/adultry (the latter aren't really "friends', but I interact with them by my own choice)...so morally, I have no precedence to shun away gay people EXCEPT when they make a big stink about their "gay identity"...just like I generally won't be friends with a neo-con or evangelical Christians...those people whose life revolve around an identity I can't reconcile with my own, or is in fact hostile to me and my own beliefs.
So, if they have no problem with my views on homosexuality, then whatever...if they don't make it an issue, I won't either. Ditto with my hetro friends...
If the topic ever comes up, I say it point blank: it's not okay to screw around, cheat on your wife, for guys to be screwing other guys, etc...and I mention I could care less if people who do these things openly get harshly punished ('cause Islamic law always comes up in these conversations). If they shrug and say 'whatever' and start talking about something else...I will too...if they make a big stink and call me savage or what not...then clearly I won't care to hang around them....
What I'm impressed with is how many people actually do shrug and say whatever...
well yeah ...i believe they are so identity-concious (sp?) because they have gotten the freedom to express their sexuality openly only recently (relatively)
Gay men are proper bitchy, more so than women and most that I have known put on the whole camp thing, they felt they had to just because they didnt understand the offside rule.
I have known a lesbian, she was more confused I reckon, and yes she was very intimidating.
SD, when women say that they are cool with gays they are only referring to gay men. You two are not the only two females who find lesbians intimidating, I have yet to find a women, friends with lesbians, who does not have lesbian tendencies herself. And you cannot claim to be cool with homosexuality by only having gay men as friends.
as i said when i welcomed my_wish, i do not know any lesbian, and have never met one....so i am very curious to know one in real life..as i have a strong personality, and a man brain (most of my buddies are male) i doubt she would intimidate me:)
furthermore i don't have gay friends right now, maybe cause they are more like girls, and most of my friends are not girls...i am not into fashion, style, and so on
well duh! ...?ofcourse im not entirely comfortable with getting too close to a lesbian because i cant be sure of what her intentions are. and then there's the whole social stigma attached to it...so that if this girls a lesbian and im hangin out with her no matter how innocent the relationship...everbody starts to think im one too...thus the cute boys will run away...:(