Re: how do you keep/ hold 'momentum' in a relationship?
I agree you definitely need the 'us' time.....with work/family children..couples still need to make alone time for each other. Jeez I have yet to learn how to balance a baby and hubby and family all at once...
but for now we got out together every friday/saturday night, either out to dinner....or just grab some snacks and go to the park and hang out by the harbor front and just talk. Other nights when we have time, we do things together, even if it means running errands together, that way we at least get to spend time with each other
Re: how do you keep/ hold 'momentum' in a relationship?
Numbed. No way to sort this out. Often seen married couples fighting on otherwise very trivial issues. Its so much a plagued relationship. You forget the other aims of life and consume your energies to find ways to comfort eachother all the time only to end up on different note of discontent
Re: how do you keep/ hold 'momentum' in a relationship?
you presented a true but scary thought here. let's pray that it does not happen to every couple.
each to his/her own.
life experiences should not become the reason why future cannot be better off, more happier and fulfilling.
hope is that with trust and a mutual outlook based on positive vibe, the pair can feel more preserved and empowered by each other.
to add a bit of flavor to life, arguments and fights are fine, as long as their premises are not self-serving, but to introduce a new and useful perspective on things to be handled together as a couple.
I’d say it should bring the two people together,
understanding each other is the part in which one has to be absolutely fearless and pure-hearted, as through the rest of the way.
empty hearts = empty house
empty lives = empty souls
bitterness = no life, vibrancy, happiness & force within
absence of faith, hope and trust = failure of being a human being
so, moving on together & stronger is the way to be
given the other alternatives as touched upon above.
Re: how do you keep/ hold ‘momentum’ in a relationship?
if you are married with kids…put the kids to bed early. I’ve noticed parents especially desi/arab parents have kids that stay up til 11pm+ or they go to bed at the same time the parents go to bed. The parents have no quality time for each other. By the end of the night they are 2 exhausted to talk let alone do anything else :halo:
Parents need 2 put the kids to bed 1-2 hrs before they retire for the evening this ought to bring some “momentum” within a relationship.
Re: how do you keep/ hold 'momentum' in a relationship?
trivual issues can always be sorted out... u've just gotta put ur pride aside. Sometimes, its just better to say "i love you" and just forget things..
Its so easy to forget why we love them when we're having a tiff and we shouldn't. Tiffs are part of our lives and i believe they only make us stronger.. no couple is rid of them...
Re: how do you keep/ hold 'momentum' in a relationship?
i think really little thoughtful things can make a huge difference sometimes. for ex. i have really early classes on tuesdays and then i have work after so i usually don't have time to do anything. so last tuesday i woke up and my husband had ironed my clothes for me before he went to work, with a little not that said "enjoy the extra 10 minutes of sleep" Just little gestures like that keep momentum alive :)
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^ i know, things like that make me ignore the fact that his shoes can never find there way to the closet and that there always seems to be a wet towel on the bathroom floor
Re: how do you keep/ hold ‘momentum’ in a relationship?
Just like if you have to think “how to kill the time” means you are hell-bored person, you must understand that there is some problem in relationship if you have to “think” how to “keep/ hold ‘momentum’ in a relationship”.
Things are supposed to slip in place and momentum is supposed to get going automatically in a healthy relationship, isnt it?
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Well said D6chora. I agree with u 100% Momentum is never lost if 2 people have enough chemistry, love, understanding and sense of adventure. One does not even have to work at it, its just there!
