Re: How Do You Feel About Death?
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Different people would assign different meaning. I don’t see a correlation between worshipping a deity and doing good.[/QUOTE”]
True, Luxury. Different people may not see it that way. But from my own perspective, that is how I feel. As a Muslim I’m taught to not be so attached to this life, but just worship Allah and be obedient because in the end we’re all just going back to Him. So doing good is an integral part of being a good Muslim.
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Also, it helps me let go of things easier. I have had a few brushes with death and with the passing of my first husband, I realize a lot that I used to have an attitude about or care a lot about really didn't matter.
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This is interesting. If it's not too personal, would you care to share ? Otherwise, we can continue on PMs.
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My brushes with death were with cancer, I was diagnosed shortly before I was pregnant with my daughtert underwent a laser surgery and chemo after I had her, was in remisson for a few years and it came back. Underwent a more radical surgery and more chemo, went into remission again. I have been in remission now for about 5 years, I have another two before I am considered cancer free.
My husband passed away from cancer. He had throat cancer which passed into his bloodstream and spread throughout his body. Eventually, one in his brain killed him. He went to sleep watching TV and just never got up, this was about a week before he was supposed to start his treatments. In a way I am glad that he passed like that. I would have loved the extra time with him, but I am glad that he did not have to go through the pain and debilatation that radiation and chemo and all that entailed would have put him through. He was in bed, in the home, right after dinner and looked so peaceful.
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Do you take it seriously?
Yes
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You mean the resulting problems dueo to your departure from the world?
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I take it seriously because I don't want my children or other family to wonder what to do if it does happen that I pass away. I intend to be cremated. I argue over and over about this with my husband. In my religion, there is nothing preventing this. So, my brother will be the executor of my estate rather than my husband. My husband and children will recieve everything, but my brother will carry out my wishes. I also take it seriously because I don't want my children to struggle as much as I did or as much as my husband did, so planning for my death is very important to me.
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I have been around death a lot, just recently my grandfather died and a week later his brother died, and one month later my friends mother died. I lost my parents at a young age.
I really cared less about death till I had kids. Now I only pray to God/allah/Adonai to keep me alive for my kids to graduate college once I see them on their feet I will have no problems. I guess my fear stems from the fact that I lost my parents at a young age and so you dont have psychological help in pakistan so it's ingrained plus the comments "is beychara ko dekho" that I grew up with just re-inforced. Point being am I scared to die, no just want to make sure my kids are on their feet. thats all.
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"How Do You Feel About Death?"
Death is ok...I like life and coffee icecream much better though.
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Today’s lecture at our local mosque was about Death. Every soul has to taste death. It was pretty scary. However, after the khutba was over, molvi said they were going to buy a plot to extend our current graveyard. If people wish, they can go ahead and ‘reserve’ a spot for them buy ‘buying’ their grave. That was pretty funny. Imagine yourself going to the molvi and buying your own grave 
One person raised a question that they should search into it and find out if buying your own qabar was Islamic because what if someone has no money to buy it? What if someone dies and there are no spots left and the ones that are left are already taken? Because you do get a certificate that entitles you to the grave and says it’s yours! Being typical Muslims, everyone started cutting him and started to say what they had to say before poor man was done making his request. 
His point was that graveyard should be a ‘waqf’, not something to sell. He was right. The imam just used incorrect words. He really should’ve used the word ‘donate’ instead of ‘buy’.