Re: How do you deal with relatives who harbour...
Close relatives like this, nope, maybe sum relatives i've only seen a couple times in my childhood, but don't remember any of them.
Re: How do you deal with relatives who harbour...
Sadiyah,
Unfortunately, yours is a really common occurrence in desi extended families. There will always be someone who's not happy with you or jealous of you. Best thing to do is not to engage them, ignore them for the time being if possible, and if you do see them, be polite and civil. Honestly, you can't change them, so let them simmer in their own soup. One other piece of advice I have for you is to do dua, read Surah Falaq and Nas to protect yourself from the evil eye, and live your life as you wish.
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If there are certain things and remarks that offend you than I think, you should be upfront and tell them that you cannot tolerate that non-sense.
Sadiyah, I do not think relatives are the issue rather than personality, may be some relatives in your family go along perfectly fine. My personality does not match with my relatives, I am the youngest in males so most of the time in gatherings I just stay back and listen. I never encountered any harsh treatment; mostly spoiled with things but still I am very shy in front of them. You really do not have to go along with them; just let them know what offends you the most and everything will be fine.
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Sadiyah i've gone (& going) through the same experience as you , but u know u can always feel better by thinking optimistically and getting some positive out of any nasty crap , the +ve here is that u're not a naive and smart enough to realize what's good and who's sincere to you this way u wouldn't suffer at hands of such jaelous / insane/narrow minded kind of relatives in a worst possible way . So cheer up and deal with in a smartest possible way.
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You shouldn't take the things very serious, Just try to be calm as much as you can....
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kill them with ur kindness. it is a lot of patience demanding task, but at least u will be greater and have peacxe of heart an purity of conscience.
when have tried every thing, nice and polite, erase the relationship.
get away from such reletaives and avoid even hearing about them thru a 3rd party as well as not have ur personal business be known by them, in any way, shape or form.
they're not worthy of that any longer.