How did you tell your friends you were getting married?

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Re: How did you tell your friends you were getting married?

Inviting them to ceremony.

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I didn't. I just told everyone after the fact.

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Yeah. Ill just have to tell them soon. And I havnt really gotten around to it because at first I only knew him and then the rishta process started. Plus some of my friends are quite the judgy sort if you know what I mean. But yeah sooner the better. Thnx

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Really? After you got hitched? Wow

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Sadia, do your mates not talk to you about this stuff very generally in conversation anyway? I mean like the guys they're seeing or engaged to?

Is it not really talked about or were you shy or something?

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Lol it is dicussed but most of mates are planning to only get married after uni and yes that makes good sense BUT that's not the case for me. My situations a little diff since I will be getting hitched and then off touni. So I don't know how they will respondto that.

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I arranged to meet one group of friends for dinner and told them then, and another group I met at home and told them then. The way I told them was to say I have some news... and then showed them the engagement ring on my finger! It was fun for me actually cus they all got excited and then we started discussing wedding plans etc. I would never have a massive dinner party as I only wanted to tell my close friends, and then all my other friends kind of found out through them. Try that

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I was planning to tell my closest mates over dinner aswell. But I wouldnt be able to show them the ring as I don't have it yet lol. Just nervous since I'm the first one to be getting hitched out of our group :/

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I told my friends over text. I wrote one text in a group conversation explaining the whole thing. However two of my friends called us over on dinner.. (restaurant) and dropped the news.

I think just tell them whatever way is possible as if you can't have them al over for dinner just text mail or call?

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Its your life and your choice... what other people would think about your marriage is not your concern. Think about your life and HIS life... the others will forget this news the very next day!

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Re: How did you tell your friends you were getting married?

I told people gradually after the nikah was done. I insisted on meeting my wife to be (at that time) before I would agree. I didn't want to create hype for a wedding if it wasn't happening. We were engaged for less than a week before we got married. Then I'd tell friends about it gradually as I met them or chatted with them online.

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How did you tell your friends you were getting married?

Just explain that there's somebody you had a rishta going on with for a while, you guys have been talking and it's decided that your families want to do the marriage so the immigration stuff can be handled right away. Your life won't be changing drastically over night it's going to be a slow transition as you finish school.

Not that it matters but I am just curious, why did your parents think it was better to do it now than once after your studies? I know you said the guy is nice but what does he do? Why a full ruksati now if you will only be coming back to the UK? Ps. From my experience, I think spousal immigration doesn't take that long. Just a year from the process that it took for some friends I know in the US. It might be different in the UK.

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Well they have actually been asking for a while and my parents maintained that we will think about it whilst I finish off school (compulsory education). Now I will be going off to uni and doing a nursing degree iA which will be a hectic next couple of yrs with little time off sooo parents thought it would be nice to do it earlier and spend next couple yrs really getting to know each other w/ long distance so by the time I graduate we know each other very well and can begin our lives together properly .

And thankyou for your advice :) really helpful. And yes your right it will be a slow process which is another reason why my parents are okay with this since its not like I'm getting hitched and off to inlaws home forever.

Also I think now you have to prove that you are working and can earn over a certain amount that's why It will probably take him a little longer to get here.