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*Originally posted by Matsui: *
MQ< Fayz is talking about illegal stuff done while on the knees.
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matsui how come everything you think about revolves around stuff done on knees.
Fayz-- You should have a talk with him.I mean if something bothers you, its only right that you make it clear to your friend.And tell him of the consequences that such actions might bring.
Can't you tell him that you don't feel comfortable becoming involved with his stuff? If you have a solid friendship, he should understand. Tell him, you want to keep your relationship strictly as friends and don't want to get involved in a business type situation (meaning you get involved in his illegal stuff).
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*Originally posted by Muslim_Queen: *
matsui how come everything you think about revolves around stuff done on knees.
Fayz-- You should have a talk with him.I mean if something bothers you, its only right that you make it clear to your friend.And tell him of the consequences that such actions might bring.
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i agree.
as 'desi' as the possessiveness seems, your friend belongs to the same culture and has the same expectations. even if you understand where those expectations come from, you shouldnt wish that your friend suddently become of another culture.
so even if you understand what part of the world some of his tendencies come from, respect them.
Let’s say you have a close friend who is into 2 number kaam…Now this friend is 'close' and being a desi you can’t say NO to him..If you distance yourself…that ends the friendship because of the possessiveness that comes among desies. See the dilemma?
2 number ka matbal hota hai making money through illegal means..
if that person is a close friend whom i genuinely care about i'll try to tell them and keep telling them that what they are doing is wrong....i'll never leave their side tho but i'll still keep telling them they r doing wrong...
uptil now i've never had a friend like this who was doing something so wrong....Allah ka shukar hae for not testing me with that situation
i did have friends who were doing somewhat sketchy things to achieve their goals...and even if i was against the idea i couldnt bring myself to say no to them when they asked me to help them out...id try to look for other alternate ways to help them out rather than going thru the bad way but if there was none avlbl and it was really important id just help em out
these situations rnt easy for sure...
Allah swt has said in surat Al-Ma’idah, (verse 2), , "Help one another in righteousness and piety, but do not help one another in sin and transgression."
and there is this hadith..
Narrated Anas:
Allah's Apostle said, "Help your brother, whether he is an oppressor or he is an oppressed one. People asked, "O Allah's Apostle! It is all right to help him if he is oppressed, but how should we help him if he is an oppressor?" The Prophet said, "By preventing him from oppressing others."
Sahih Bukhari, Volume:3, Book :43 (Oppressions), Hadith Number :624
irem aapne toh kitaab likhdi
yaar half of it is cut and paste from the religion forum 
btw, welcome back, its great to have u back 
ive been reading ur one liners and enjoying them
I enjoy one liners more than long sermons until there is some thing interesting.
How you doing irem? Any new dilemma?
Regarding this thread:- Its so boring and beats about the bush. Make your points clearer and get the answers right away.
Fayz, you can’t distance your self from ’someone’ and keep a friendship. You should distance from his illegal work. You’ll only have a say in what he is doing if you’re close to him. If you don’t feel comfortable ending your relationship, maybe you could work on him, else if he has nothing you respect/like in your friends, this relationship will have a natural death, you wont have to think about it.
With a special friend of opposite gender, I always say we will be just friends and nothing more. Having said that I will keep my mouth shut and let them talk even if it gives me bad breath.