Home schooling....pros and cons?

[Muzna]

Re: Home schooling…pros and cons?

@psyah

You see Reha … That is it … I have been giving my reasons, I have been speaking about my kids and I have been speaking about myself and my wife … For some reason people here have taken my justification as a taunt on themp … I actually started off saying that I would not encourage anyone else to home school their kids … Because it is not my place to convince others what they should do … Yet the reverse advice comes plentiful to us … I would however challenge others to do it if they share similar values to my own … Most people here who have been debating this matter do not share similar values … You see I don’t want my kids to be able to know 200 different curse words … Some people here do not mind that … I do not want to have to undo some of the trauma from school, but some here believe that it is important to be subjected to such things … There is a young lady here in Qatar who has sent her kids to a school where there are mostly Arabs … Because she wanted to toughen up her kids … I don’t say or think she is wrong … She will get exactly what she wants … Tougher kids …

It is because of the parental mindset and what they want from their kids that determines whether they should even think about home education or not …there is no insult here … An insult was taken because of the brevity in how I said it … For me it is more important to keep the kids close until their value system has matured … For others it is more important to give their kids a taste of society so they can integrate in to that society … Become a part of it … That is fine … It might be better to do that than to keep their kids at home and get frustrated with them and not teach them anything and fearing that they will do badly … For such people sending the kids to school is better and they can support with extra studies at home … For sure I was a schooled child … I recognise my own shortcomings but I turned out okay … InshaAllah I can learn to overcome my shortcomings … I should say … Home schoolers get a raw deal with society having a go at us far more than the contrary …

I’m surprised that you can’t see the reason why people have taken offense at your approach.
after reading this, I really am curious as to how my values differ from those of you and your wife…
I certainly do not want my child to know 200 curse words…I’d rather she didn’t know 2 of them…but my personal reality and success stems from the satisfaction that she may know them but she will not use them. to me THAT is education and upbringing.
for the woman that wants to toughen up her kids…just as you cannot say or think that she is wrong, you cannot say or think that her kids will be tough…having exposure to something doesn’t necessarily mean that you will become that way. yes…you can say that probabilities will encourage certain outcomes but only when counter measures are not taken. you and I do not know what counter-measures that woman might be taking to prevent her children from becoming “tough” themselves.