Re: home purchasing
You have to decide what is important to you. As a Realtor, I don’t like to see my clients be “house poor”…meaning they over extend themselves to go into a pricey house, but then are living month to month with no savings or cushion for the incidentals (rise in taxes, maintenance, etc) that WILL pop up.
For a first time home buyer, the average time a person stays in a "starter’’ home is 7-10 years, before they upgrade or move on.
My personal and professional opinion is not to over extend yourself financially to the point where you can’t even enjoy life outside of paying the mortgage every month.