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@somegroovychick

^ depending on your budget, you could even go see a designer and that would make life easier because then you do get to meet them in person and can discuss your requirements with them in detail. language would also not be an issue as they do speak english unlike the workmen in the markets, most of whom don’t. you would pay more but you would have a greater chance of getting the kind of outfit you are envisioning with less stress. they also would do fittings for you, likely with a cotton template first, so if you do return to where you are living, at least you’d know they have correct measurements and you’ve “tried on” a sample of your dress.

I don’t really have a budget at the moment since its so far away I just like to dream and well familiarize myself with this as everything is new to me. Designers sounds fantastic but with what I read I don’t really like been given attitude by somebody I’m paying for to make something for me. I hear that a lot of designers have big egos? (when I say heard I mean read on this forum) Language wouldn’t be a problem because I would always have somebody who is fluent in Urdu with me wether it be my SO, MIL or SOs cousins.

i’m not sure what you mean by a normal lehenga, but no, not everything has to be flashy. when you go to the markets or meet the designer, you can choose what kind of “kaam” or embroidery you would like on your outfit along with its colours. you can opt for a tone on tone outfit or a little bit of gold or lots of silver or bronze or whatever suits your fancy, really. most pakistani brides do wear flash because their makeup and jewellery are also flash and wearing a plain outfit with a super elaborate gold set would look odd. its also part of the culture so i suppose people do it for that reason too. if you search out the Bunto Kazmi thread here- she’s a designer, but a very pricey one- you’ll see most of her brides will opt for less flashy outfits in that the gold embroidery will be dull gold not a bright yellow gold, and their jewellery is often very elegant and understated. she has also done a few outfits in white and other lighter colours so you can get an idea of what that would look like in a lehenga.

I meant traditional red lengha with heavy make up and huge jewelry. I was more thinking in elegance and not plain etc. I guess I’ve just seen too many lenghas that are over the top that made me go “o.O what was this person thinking?”

lehengas are heavy, yes, but no more heavy than a bridal gown, i’d say… unless you opt for a very lightweight tulle or raw silk gown, that is. most of the heavier gowns are made of heavy silk and have lots of layers, no? walking in heels shouldn’t be a problem but also, as a pakistani bride in pakistan, your only walking will be up the aisle and on to the stage and then off the stage and into the limo at the end of the night. traditionally, brides do not mingle with guests by walking around their wedding.

I’ve never worn a bridal gown so I wouldn’t know how heavy that is either. I was just told by my friend that they are heavy. and yes I was also thinking that I wouldn’t be walking too much.. but I’m scared when I do walk I’ll fall because of the heels…even though they are so pretty

you can absolutely eat! in fact, brides and grooms are either seated at their own tables with close family at some point during dinner or dinner is brought for them up on stage. let your fiance’s family know you’d like to eat and i’m sure they’ll feed you lol

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haha great! yes, I’ve been told that and find it really odd that the couple stays put but I guess that would save me from being introduced to so many relatives at once..? or wouldn’t it?

weddings are usually a few hours long- 4-5 hours, i would say. there’s not much that happens in pakistan other than the bride and groom making their entrance into the venue, and then lots of picture-taking commences, and then there’s dinner and thats it. i’m not sure if speeches are the norm or slideshows. someone else will have to confirm that for me. remember though, this is your wedding, so if there is something particular that you would like to see happen, let your fiance and his family know.

Of course thats what I’m planning to do. I just don’t really know what I want just yet. Since I’m absolutely clueless.

oh, and as for the corset back dress, if you really want that, then definitely go and see a designer because they will be able to instruct their workmen to create that for you. the average market workman will not have any idea of how to go about creating that properly.

designers are sounding more appealing… if they didn’t have such big egos! I’m just playing ideas. I really don’t know what I want at this point. Hopefully I’ll know more in the next year and a half.

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I was wondering how do people choose the Henna design? or does the Artist just paints it herself with whatever she’s in the mood?