he's too tall..

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6 foot and proud over here pal.

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Whether or not they “look good” together is irrelevant.

But if she’s not attracted to him, there’s not much that can be done.

BTW: Hubby is a foot taller than I am. :blush:

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There is much scope of wearing high heels for girls after marriage. Height is the last thing to be looked for in a rishta, I guess. I have also seen guys an inch to two shorter than the wives and they seem to be ok with that. As I said eariler, there are already many other factors to consider in a rishta that you cannot further make it more complex by including height issue in it.

However, as Sahar02 said, if your friend is NOT attracted to him for whatever reason (height can be a reason), she should not pursue it. Gut feelings are very important in rishta process and sometimes Allah Swt just sends us signals which makes us have second thoughts about the rishta.

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Also, the sex issue is not a real issue. People were probably just teasing her. I know a woman who is not even five feet tall, and very tiny in structure, married to a man who is burly and big -- like about 6'6". And they have kids. :@:

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My SIL always wears at least 4-inch heels.. in the kitchen, coming up and down the stairs etc., it's a bit of a health hazard and a few times she has come close to having a really nasty accident.. She literally does not take her high heels off at all during the day.. That's an extreme case tho, I'd hope there aren't many girls out there like that..

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You don't like your men tall sweetheart?

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It all boils down to attraction. Personally i dont find really tall guys too attractive. my ideal man is 5'9''-5'11''

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I don't think they said you can't have kids, it just might be a bit uncomfortable n tricky :D :p Lols.

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i think 6'4" is kinda scary :@:.

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Wearing heals all the time is way extreme. A short girl might be a bit conscious in public as compared to her husband and a few inches comfortable heels is not a bad idea when going out only.

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Despite from a few details, I could have sworn that this thread was started by one of my friends without me knowing, because I am in the exact same situation as your friend lol. Funny enough, the same height difference as well. And I haven't known him for a long time as well

As a person I'm generally not a superficial girl. I do think personally is what's most important, but that doesn't mean I would go marry a midget. No offence, just honest talk.
My problem is though that I just don't feel the attraction towards him what so ever. Everything else is perfect. He's got a great job and he is a nice and sweet person, from what I know till now. Maybe a bit too sweet. But I am just not feeling it.

My friend (who knows him well) told me that if I reject him, I will regret it for the rest of my life. This scares me. Can you learn to love someone? Maybe I should start a thread of my own..

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LOL! this forum sure attracts its share of "delusional" desi women (most of them are anyways). So the guy has a great job, is sweet and loving towards you and you're not attracted to him because he is TOO tall? Wait till you're 30 and you have to marry a 5'6 45 yr old pot bellied uncle. I'm sure that'll work out much better.

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lol

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Hmmm thats a bummer i guess... it might develop, but i wouldnt wait for it too long before deciding to end 'it'...

My friend has only seen him once n talked 1nce on the phone and since then theyve been in touch through Ping... he is not calling her, but he is staying in touch on a daily base... The 1 time they talked on the phone was coz he was overthinking it and she just called him to help him...
She thinks its a lil weird now coz there is only contact through ping,..... is he just slow? shy? overthinking? carefull? political correct? i dont know....

@ zareenkhan: this is exactly what i ment, unconfortable/tricky or something...

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any idea if she should call him agn herself? or wait and watch... its been 1.5 half week now since she called... it doesnt feel like she's gettign to know him much this way. she does not want to ask him for a date, she thinks he should...she was the one who took the first step to contact him and also called him the first time and now she feels there should b more from his side..
Its not that she cant ask him, but she want to be carefull...

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Ouch.
Maybe I wasn't clear in my post.. It's not because of his height that I'm not attracted to him. Atleast I don't think so.. But as I said I'm not a superficial girl and personality is what matters most. But still I'm just not feeling it and what "it" is - well, I'm not exactly sure.

I'm in my early 20s, so I don't see the hurry to rush into something just because it's "best". We have only met 3 times, where all the meetings were in company with some of our other friends, but I've been talking to him for about 6 months. We only stay in touch through txt msgs.. But after all this time, I should feel something, I guess. But still nothing. Although I do see the point in what you said.

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First - correction to my previous reply, I of course meant "personality is what's most important" and not "personally".

Well we have also just been in touch through txt msg almost every single day for about 6 months and met three times, where all of the meetings have been in company with some of our other friends. (I didn't felt comfortable meeting with him alone) and I'm still not feeling it and I'm actually not sure this "it" I am waiting for.. does "it" even exist?

But so now I have decided (I think) to end "it"because I don't want to waste his time or to hold him back if he wants to move on, if there even is something to move on from.

We haven't been in contact the last week, I have been making a lot of excuses not to talk to him, but today I texted that maybe we should talk about where "this" is going and he replied that he has been wanting to do that as well but he was waiting for us to meet face to face. But I'm going to call him later -

I guess there's no reason to meet if it's not going anywhere. Hope I don't break his heart, he's a really nice guy.

Maybe in your friends situation he's also just waiting for the right time to talk serious to her? Does he text her himself or is it just her whose trying to keep in touch? And what do you mean by he was overthinking it?

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hii :)

maybe the reason ur not feeling anything for him is because 6 months is a long time to be in touch just through text... I think u need to meet him on ur own, u kindof have to ;) even if you find it scary....
i think he's being very patient or he's just slow :P
Think it over before ending things, go meet him 1 or few times.... then ull get a feel i think :)

As for my friend, they are both keeping in touch. Sometimes he texts first and sometimes she does...

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heyy tall men look good...tell her she can wear really high heeeeeelssss :)