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I just don’t want random aunties and uncles to hog up tables that I would rather have closer friends/people sitting at. I feel like the flow is much better and it’s the ABSOLUTE worst not knowing that many ppl at the wedding and being forced to sit next to random people that are 3x your age and you’re the only one there. Trying to eliminate the awkwardness.
Also…setting up our single friends by having them sit by each other. 
jk jk
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At my wedding, the head table sat our bridal party and us, obvs.
At my brothers, they sat at a sweetheart table centered in front of the stage. Both families (siblings and their spouses, parents, grandparents) sat at long tables flanking them on either side.
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yes to all of that. It’s a lot of prep work but things so SO SMOOTHLY on the day of. Desi people aren’t monkeys- we can read and follow simple instructions. I’m not sure why we get such a bad rap for assigned seating ESP in the west where it is the norm.
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Yeah i want to do it the way your brother did it! I just have a very uneven number of people from both sides. His side has 7 and my side as 4.
I avoided a head table simply because i didnt want any arguments about who sits where. My mum and siblings hardly sat down on the baraat day and i just wanted more space for the dance floor
Head table ideally should be bride & groom plus both sets of parents. Or a really long one with all the siblings also. I just prefer round table seating more intimate
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can you add on four people and can he add on one more?
maybe family elders you are close to, best friends, parent’s best friends perhaps?
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Im thinking I can add my dad’s best friend and his family (that’s 4 people) and he can add his 2 grandparents. It won’t be perfect, but close enough.
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Sounds like a plan!