EJ if he is all that and makes you feel loved and stuff and you are also aware of the fact that he has not and will not change then I suggest you put up with him on the few bad days too. Overlook his few faults e.g. his job, the sort of liberty it gives him, his attitude towards you and housework etc and love him back. Just re-eavluate your priorities. Does his love do you more good than the harm when he is a mad man! Is it worth putting up with him when he treats you like crap, for the days when he will make you feel all loved. Weigh out your priorities and go ahead with the best option. You know better!
EJ , all i can say is evaluate you husband behaviour i.e: out of 24 hours
how many hours he is in loving mood / i.e. good too you
and
how many hours he is in non loving mood / i.e. bad to you.
and then keep track of this for at least a week.
if the ratio goes like this
good mood = 20% and
bad mood = 80% ,
you are not doing any good to your kid or your self.
and if you are out side pakistan and in west, you really got alot of rights, you can dumb him and still live peacefully as he will ahve to pay for child support and for you
He's living in a different time and place. This is the mindset that FOBs usually bring over with them, not that the other side is always blameless either. In a situation where both partners are working it's just being ignorant to expect one side to do all the chores.
He doesn't sound like the type to see reason as he probably thinks the status quo will prevail so assuming you don't want out, a seperation might be a good idea for a while so he can see some sense. If he's not bothered by that then he doesn't think much of you anyhow.
I wa once enaged to a jerk like this. Right after meeting, he started dictating what "he" likes and what "he" doesnot like. After sometime I realized where do I stand in this equation, which for him was he + he = hehe
He was no changing material. So we split our ways. It was difficult but I did it.
Anyway EJ so it is up to you , how far you want to bend!
Muniya. Tell me about it!