Re: Grudges
Hareem, I think men are more pragmatic than are women and this tends to makeit easier for them not to hold a grudge. Men do not have the hormonal fluctuations that we women have to deal with too - so they are much less inclined to look at situations with emotion.
Tomake it easier to give up a grudge, think about how actually important was the offense. In the whole, overall scheme of things and of life in general, it is more emotionally draining to hold on to the grudge or to let it go? Would it be more personally rewarding to let it continue or to drop it?
When we look at things completely without emotion, many times we can see more clearly the best way to handle a situation.