Re: God and Man
I think its largely due to environmental factors, more than genetic.
As a female, growing up...it was not excusable for me to talk about other guys ... like ever.
It was not excusable for me to comment on a guy's appearance.
Or compliment him. Publicly or privately.
It was not ok to TALK to a guy. I was caught talking to a kid at school when my mom pulled up to pick me up, and she asked who it was - I said, "he's my friend". She said, no he's a boy, so he can't be your friend. He's your "classfellow". My friend got a kick out of that.
It was not ok to play with boys after a certain age. The hell I got when I went downstairs to play cricket with my guy cousins the year I started wearing a bra!
I dont think Pakistani boys get this kind of conditioning - at least I've never seen it. When they make comments about actresses or even girls in the neighborhood, no one blinks an eye. I had a poster of Shehzad Roy up in my room, and when my uncle visited once, he was shocked. Let my parents know exactly what he thought of it too. Shehzad Roy hung around in that room even after I stopped liking him, just for sake of spite. But most girls would have taken the poster down FAST if they knew they had extended relatives visiting.
We're just raised differently. A boy is out there with muliple girlfriends, and you know what is said sometimes? Well, he's a guy, what can I say? Say the same thing about a girl, and she's a slut.