Re: Getting your way in fashion with mother in law
my inlaws brought my lengha quite a few months before my wedding. i asked my husband to decribe it and the way he described it , it seemed as if i ws gnna b wearin a circus tent. newayz so i hd a rite go at him tellin him how i dint wnt dt color. him bein the sweety went bk to the shop to return it and gt the color i wnt bt unfortunately he cudnt return otherwise the 35,000 wud go wasted. the same with my mehndi jora. they gt me this multi colored jora , which i found okay no one really liked it bt wen i wore it it looked fantastic,.
nt to mention it ws my nand's shadi too so they did do quite a good job gettin us things equally.
Re: Getting your way in fashion with mother in law
aw its ok hun
the whole tradition really needs to be abolished …many girls don’t really feel comfortable with what others pick out
my dadi took my mom so that she can pick her own dress
Re: Getting your way in fashion with mother in law
well well, u gals worry about your wedding dresses chosen by your mother in laws .my sister's life will make u all feel alot better.i swear.she's been married for last 10 years n from the day of her wedding till today she cannot wear dresses of her own choice...she isnt allowed to wear clothes given to her by me or by our parents....according to her mum in law they r too lame ...she cannot let her grand children wear what is given to my sis by us....well may b she has a majestic taste or what but thats the life style my sister is having....she cant do anythng about it otherwise she has to lose her home hubby n kids...so b thankful to God whatever u have or the way u are treated cuz there r other ppl around u too who are having more worse lives than u all.im sure now u all will feel much better ....save your energies for the days to come after this life...n let others do what ever they r doing ...trust me u will get what u will sow..all the best
Re: Getting your way in fashion with mother in law
^ Are you serious??? Why in the world would she lose her home if she wears her own clothes???? But if you're telling the truth....that's so so so sooo sad. :(
Re: Getting your way in fashion with mother in law
^ thats horrible-- and whats worse is she puts up with up by the sound of things... no matter what relationship you have with someone, they shouldn't be able to control you and hold you hostage. especially over personal things like how to dress and how to raise your kids. i feel really sorry for your sister!
Re: Getting your way in fashion with mother in law
You have to gage the situation, but this can be hard for the traditional desi girl - you know, sheltered and probably hasn't talked to many people outside her little social circle - but figure out the MIL's personality and how she might react. Speak first to your fiance/husband about it, and ask his opinion on how you should handle it.
If she's a tough cookie, then call her up and ask if she'd like to go shopping with you, so you can bond a bit? Take her out and take her to lunch or something while you're at it, and shop around for clothes. Chatter about designs you like/don't like, etc. And then bring up the topic about your engagement/shaadi clothes. If she's open about the topic, prod further and be bold: ask if you can go ahead and give her some ideas about what you were thinking about. Most MIL's might appreciate it - means less work for them.
See, you girls need to get out there and learn to manipulate people. You'll figure out all kinds of ways to get what you want.
