Re: Gentlemen - Would you actually marry a girl who cheats on her husband?
Men dont like being blamed and neither do women.
Anyway, Niks makes a good point that if things are really that bad...why is she getting involved with another man? Shouldnt her first priority be her children? Their safety? Their livelihood?
Re: Gentlemen - Would you actually marry a girl who cheats on her husband?
Hmmm, your point noted Mirch, and I see where you're coming from...but what I don't get is that let's say she's in the middle of such a rocky relationship, has kids and all, how does she have the mindest to romance with another man and how does she feel when she goes to her kids...disloyal, impure? Somehow, no matter how much one justifies it, having an extramarital affair is wrong in more than one way. If you just can't get along with your spouse, it's best to end that relationship and then move on.
What if it is not romance as show in TV drama and movies ?
This is a contact with a person ,who is that prince on the white horse ,who wants to take her and the kids away from all this and they want to live happily ever after. He relates to her miseries and knows she and the kids need protection and need to get rid of that jerk of a guy.
Re: Gentlemen - Would you actually marry a girl who cheats on her husband?
GS is a realistic representation of human beings :D
Re: Gentlemen - Would you actually marry a girl who cheats on her husband?
Well if the chemistry and biology are both right on the top - Than why not :)
Re: Gentlemen - Would you actually marry a girl who cheats on her husband?
What if it is not romance as show in TV drama and movies ? This is a contact with a person ,who is that prince on the white horse ,who wants to take her away from all this and they want to live happily ever after. He relates to her miseries and knows she needs protection and needs to get rid of that jerk of a guy.
:D But still it is not right...eh? She's obviously going to him because he's satisfying her in ways her husband isn't...so she's building this new relationship on the rebound. Also, any chances of fixing her marriage will go down the drain because now she has other options.
Re: Gentlemen - Would you actually marry a girl who cheats on her husband?
:D But still it is not right...eh? She's obviously going to him because he's satisfying her in ways her husband isn't...so she's building this new relationship on the rebound. Also, any chances of fixing her marriage will go down the drain because now she has other options.
In others words - she be a promiscuous woman. :D
Note to author: one more time CM.....just one more time.
Re: Gentlemen - Would you actually marry a girl who cheats on her husband?
Ethical thing for such woman (the one whose current hubby is abusive) is to leave him and then she is open to be romantically involved with anyone. If she is doing it during her marriage then she is using her current hubby for shelter and food and that is not moral.
Re: Gentlemen - Would you actually marry a girl who cheats on her husband?
CM, Now that'll be a bit harsh, but see my whole point is the mindset...
I'd like to know what a person thinks about their acts morally or have they become so selfish that they are consumed by their own pleasures over the mental health of their children? Yes we all know that children suffer in a weak marriage, but, what would a child think of her mother if she found out that she likes another man and not her daddy? And that is why it's best to end a relationship first so you can get closure, you can rest your mind and make better decisions rather than appear to be a hormonally challenged person.
Re: Gentlemen - Would you actually marry a girl who cheats on her husband?
:D But still it is not right...eh? She's obviously going to him because he's satisfying her in ways her husband isn't...so she's building this new relationship on the rebound. Also, any chances of fixing her marriage will go down the drain because now she has other options.
Since it is a hypothetical question , I am also throwing hypothetical situations , in which I think that this woman is doing nothing wrong.
I am keeping religion and desi mentality out of picture. In desi culture all encounters between men and women are romantic. They do not recognize any other kind of men and women contact between stranger men and women. Heck if they see a father and a pretty woman walking together in a market and if they do not know them they will assume just one kind of relationship and be jealous of him and say , budhay ko dekho jawan biwi lay k bazaroon main ghoom raha hay. Astaghfarullah.
Re: Gentlemen - Would you actually marry a girl who cheats on her husband?
Oh not directed at you. Generic post. I love how GS has two different standards of morality.
I waited to respond to the question since it was directed to the gentlemen. But now that I see other ladies have weighed in - it's my turn!
Like I said in the previous thread, no excuses for the wife to find a back-up plan while she's in a relationship. End the first relationship because that relationship is failing and not because someone has wooed her away or she's looking for some variety.
The abuse scenario - I actually don't have very much sympathy for a woman who latches onto another man to get away from her abusive husband. It seems like she's using him for what he can do for her rather than because she's in love with guy #2.
Only you guys can answer whether or not they'd marry a woman who left her husband for you, but I'd ask the following:
1) If she leaves her first husband, who's to say she'll be faithful the second time around.
2) If you're her knight rescuing her from a bad marriage - does she really love you or what you can do for her? And can a relationship built on gratitude survive?
Re: Gentlemen - Would you actually marry a girl who cheats on her husband?
Simple question. A gender reversal at that. You are seeing a married woman. She wants to leave her husband for you. You willing to trust such a promiscuous woman and on top of that marry her?
If she is gonna cheat on her husband she will cheat on you. So I say enjoy the fun while it lasts and move on to a more decent chick for a proper future.
If you are the cause for promiscuity, then it is impossible to be true to your relationship and also judge at the same time. Only an outsider can judge the way you reason. You cannot use the relationship to justify the future end of the same.
Re: Gentlemen - Would you actually marry a girl who cheats on her husband?
I think if you are in a unhappy marriage - or thinking of commiting adultery (your obviously unhappy) so get out - aka divorce. Ask for your local Imam for help on the matter if possible or family/friends - esp if you cannot talk to your husband/wife directly
Then - move on with time - in the sanctuary of marriage - surely if they truely love you they would wait for you and marry you. Instead of having an affair while you are in a unhappy marriage?
Re: Gentlemen - Would you actually marry a girl who cheats on her husband?
Ethical thing for such woman (the one whose current hubby is abusive) is to leave him and then she is open to be romantically involved with anyone. If she is doing it during her marriage then she is using her current hubby for shelter and food and that is not moral.
The above is ethical , correct & respectable way. No matter how abusive the husband is , if the wife is involved with another man it's called cheating and it's ethically , morally & religiously wrong. There is no justification for cheating. She can take divorce if the marriage is not working or if she is being abused and after that she can look for another husband.
Re: Gentlemen - Would you actually marry a girl who cheats on her husband?
Ethics applies to both. Ideally both men and women should clear the first marriage and when that iissue is sqaured away, then develop relationship with other person.
Problem with waiting maybe that other person may not be around by that time. Some may say so be it.
On the other hand major problem with not waiting to get cleared off first relation is, ...what if the first relation gets better or spouses come to compromise, live happily again? The outsider or third person may be very ticked or may retaliate in extreme cases.