Ugh, I so know what you mean. It's incredibly sad. I have only onw friend who I've never ever had a fight with, because we're both sort of like guys in a way. "Do i look fat in this?"
"Yes you do"
She's the only person I can say that to without it coming back. Normally when I'm honest with a friend she will go quiet and then weeks later out of nowehere bring it up. Sort of makes me understand why men find women so confusing!!
I've recently experienced the whole *****ing thing with someone I thought was a very dear friend for more than a decade. She's been the one I have turned to and confided in throughout my relationship, as my husband is foreign so my parents didn't approve (all good now though)
I found out that not only had she been going and telling my parents aaaal the things I confided in her, but she had been telling me complete lies and making up stories about things my family said about me and my husband. Since things are back to normal with my family I asked them "Why did you say those things" and they said ummm we never said any such thing. My mum was actually really upset that she made these things up, she treated her like another of her daughters.
I really don't understand why she couldn't be happy for me. Everytime she was successful or doing well I was truly happy for her from the bottom of my heart. I just don't get it. Why can't we women just treat each other well now and then!!!!
Ugh, I so know what you mean. It's incredibly sad. I have only onw friend who I've never ever had a fight with, because we're both sort of like guys in a way. "Do i look fat in this?"
"Yes you do"
She's the only person I can say that to without it coming back. Normally when I'm honest with a friend she will go quiet and then weeks later out of nowehere bring it up. Sort of makes me understand why men find women so confusing!!
I've recently experienced the whole *****ing thing with someone I thought was a very dear friend for more than a decade. She's been the one I have turned to and confided in throughout my relationship, as my husband is foreign so my parents didn't approve (all good now though)
I found out that not only had she been going and telling my parents aaaal the things I confided in her, but she had been telling me complete lies and making up stories about things my family said about me and my husband. Since things are back to normal with my family I asked them "Why did you say those things" and they said ummm we never said any such thing. My mum was actually really upset that she made these things up, she treated her like another of her daughters.
I really don't understand why she couldn't be happy for me. Everytime she was successful or doing well I was truly happy for her from the bottom of my heart. I just don't get it. Why can't we women just treat each other well now and then!!!!
like i said earlier...a woman just cant see another woman be more successful in life then her or be happier then her. It's in a woman's nature to be jealous, manipulative, envious, gossipy so on and so forth....it is very rare to find a woman who doesnt have such traits.
There are some women on this very forum that are probably thinking....no it's not me to be this way..I am an exception blah blah...but when the time comes they can be just as evil to their "gfs" as the next woman.
OH! and the one thing that i absolutely HATE is when these very same wicked women...act like angels in front of men! argh!! what hypocrites!
why can't women just stick together and be happy for one another :(
Ive got my sisters and a couple of girl friends that I count on. I dont tell all of my friends every single thing about my personal life because its not right. I only want honest opinions from people who really care about me and what happens in my life. Not someone who might revel in the gossip and spread it.
Trusting a woman over a man - NEVER. Not that all of them are malicious, but a lot of them cant keep things to themselves for some reason, and its definitely not easy to spot the trustworthy types.
I have a small circle of female friends that i trust. The circle is small because I've learned that there are few friends who are sincere and trustworthy. Also, I base things on actions. A person can say the sweetest things to you, but if their actions are contradicting their words, then the relationship needs to be assessed. Because actions speak louder than words..... regardless of whether u are dealing with a male or a female friend.
I've seen guys that are trustworthy and some who are not. I've seen females who are trustworthy and some who are not. Stereotyping can sometimes prevent us from getting to know a person as an individual. And there will always be exceptions to the generalizations. I've learned to be more careful about what I disclose about myself to others and I'm learning to be not so trusting of people as I used to be. It's good to give people a chance.....and if through their actions they've proved themselves untrustworthy, then it's best to maintain a distance and find people who will truly respect u.