Can I share a stare story instead of an ogle one? One that is not funny at all.
A family of 3. Middle aged dad, mom and teenage daughter, staring LONG and HARD, LONG and HARD, and STILL LONG and HARD at my hijabi wife, my 1 year old son, and myself, while we were getting food from the food court at Chicago Shedd Aquarium. Normally I don't bother about such things whether we are in Pakistan or any where else but that incident was BAD. I almost said something out loud but controlled myself to avoid trouble. Never seen anyone staring so bad at anyone else.
This place was particularly bad. At one point while I was in the ticket line and wife was waiting in the main hallway, she got so nervous because of all the stares that she moved behind a wall close to the aquarium offices.
Okay so my story is not about some guys but a lady! I was at Walmart a few years ago and this Indian lady got super excited. If you live in America/Canada then you know what I mean. Desis tend to stare at each other hoping the other will come and make "friendship",..lol...or something like that. So she followed me into an isle and stared at me then pretended to look at stuff on the shelf then every few seconds looked at me. She was trying not to make it obvious but ended up doing the opposite. I really had to get something on the same shelf she was browsing at so when I went there she quickly turned to me, smiled and said in her Indian accent:"I really like your shirt." Then there was an awkward pause and I said thanks trying to get on with my shopping. Then she stopped me again asking me if I had used a brand of food and what I thought. I quickly and politely told her I had never used it and ran away. Weird or what. Well, if you want, I mean really want a guy story..I do have one. I was only 15 at the time and sitting in a bus in Pakistan. I don't remember where the bus was going but it was a long journey. My Mom sat in one seat and I sat in another far away from her with my younger brother. We played cards and then some chichorey men sitting behind us kept yelling to my brother what kind of cards I had. It was slight teasing at first then got out of hand. They started pinching me from behind their seats in a way where others could not see it. I got fed up and yelled at them to stop! My Mom all the while was sleeping all the way in the front. Later I told her and she got really mad at me. At me!! And told me I should have waken her up and she would have taken care of the guys. My brother was only 9 at the time so he didn't understand what was happening or going on!
Can I share a stare story instead of an ogle one? One that is not funny at all.
A family of 3. Middle aged dad, mom and teenage daughter, staring LONG and HARD, LONG and HARD, and STILL LONG and HARD at my hijabi wife, my 1 year old son, and myself, while we were getting food from the food court at Chicago Shedd Aquarium. Normally I don't bother about such things whether we are in Pakistan or any where else but that incident was BAD. I almost said something out loud but controlled myself to avoid trouble. Never seen anyone staring so bad at anyone else.
This place was particularly bad. At one point while I was in the ticket line and wife was waiting in the main hallway, she got so nervous because of all the stares that she moved behind a wall close to the aquarium offices.
That sucks! were they goray or desi?
Its times like these that you're totally justified in lashing out at rude people like that.
Someone , somewhere on some forum is right now talking about how these two girls kept staring at her from 3 aisles away and even had the nerve to walk right past her to have an excuse to look at her.
well ifyou're gonna wear a freakin evening gown to walmart, of course we're gonna look :o
I was at a fun fair and this creepy dude was checking me out everywhere I went, wherever I turn he would appear right around, i backtracked and he was there, I stopped and he just hung about, I started running away from him but he started running as well, thankfully, as soon as I got out of the hall of mirrors he was nowhere to be seen.
I know what ogling is and the Indian lady at walmart was certainly doing that. As for the guys on the bus, they were just teasing/harassing me so yea, I guess that isn't ogling. But as for me being at walmart I had just come from work and was wearing a ordinary work blouse and straight dark pants and flat shoes. Not that I am guessing that walmart comment was about me or anything.
As for the poor guy who got a stare down of his family by someone at the aquarium, I would NOT recommend lashing out or yelling! His wife is a hijabi which shows everyone she is Muslim. When you wear hijab you have to present yourself as a classy and calm person. You can't be doing weird things. The husband will look like a maniac if he yells and makes a thamasha and that will further the bad name of us Muslims. Instead he could politely go up to the staring fellow and introduce himself and ask him why he is staring at his wife/family and that it is making them all uncomfortable. Also, the wife is probably getting stared at because she is wearing hijab and that makes her stand out. Maybe his ignorant guy has never seen a hijabi and he is fascinated by her and maybe wants to see how the family interacts as he probably has those negative stereotypes in his small head the media has portrayed of us.
I know what ogling is and the Indian lady at walmart was certainly doing that. As for the guys on the bus, they were just teasing/harassing me so yea, I guess that isn't ogling. But as for me being at walmart I had just come from work and was wearing a ordinary work blouse and straight dark pants and flat shoes. Not that I am guessing that walmart comment was about me or anything.
Err no, a few weeks ago I was at walmart with my cousin and we saw a lady there with her husband..and she was wearing an evening gown...we just assumed she was on her way back from an even,t but it was pretty funny seeing it..thats' all...and yeah we stared and even walked past her just to see the rest of the gown..lol
Can I share a stare story instead of an ogle one? One that is not funny at all.
A family of 3. Middle aged dad, mom and teenage daughter, staring LONG and HARD, LONG and HARD, and STILL LONG and HARD at my hijabi wife, my 1 year old son, and myself, while we were getting food from the food court at Chicago Shedd Aquarium. Normally I don't bother about such things whether we are in Pakistan or any where else but that incident was BAD. I almost said something out loud but controlled myself to avoid trouble. Never seen anyone staring so bad at anyone else.
This place was particularly bad. At one point while I was in the ticket line and wife was waiting in the main hallway, she got so nervous because of all the stares that she moved behind a wall close to the aquarium offices.
or perhaps your wife shudnt wear a hijab? i just dont get the concept behind hijab. Either you fully cover your body with those ninja suits or just wear normal modest clothes that majority of non-hijabi desi muslim women wear.
Just whats the benefit of covering your hair and then wearing tight fir jeans (as I have seen with some hijabi women). I mean if you're doing it for "ALLAH" then why get upset with stares from people? your reward is in the after-life. They are probably just jealous that your wife is currying up favors with Allah by wearing hijab while they will be burning in hell; just keep telling yourself that - will make you happy.
I know what ogling is and the Indian lady at walmart was certainly doing that. As for the guys on the bus, they were just teasing/harassing me so yea, I guess that isn't ogling. But as for me being at walmart I had just come from work and was wearing a ordinary work blouse and straight dark pants and flat shoes. Not that I am guessing that walmart comment was about me or anything.
Err no, a few weeks ago I was at walmart with my cousin and we saw a lady there with her husband..and she was wearing an evening gown...we just assumed she was on her way back from an even,t but it was pretty funny seeing it..thats' all...and yeah we stared and even walked past her just to see the rest of the gown..lol
or perhaps your wife shudnt wear a hijab? i just dont get the concept behind hijab. Either you fully cover your body with those ninja suits or just wear normal modest clothes that majority of non-hijabi desi muslim women wear.
Just whats the benefit of covering your hair and then wearing tight fir jeans (as I have seen with some hijabi women). I mean if you're doing it for "ALLAH" then why get upset with stares from people? your reward is in the after-life. They are probably just jealous that your wife is currying up favors with Allah by wearing hijab while they will be burning in hell; just keep telling yourself that - will make you happy.
I have "young" uncle, who is just 9 years older than I am, so he does have like also my age friends. So one time I saw my uncle sitting in cafee with his guy friends, who I didn't know and like I walked towards him cause I wanted to say hi to him and also tell him that everyone(my dads siblings)is coming our house in evening. So while I was walking I noticed like one of his friends was staring me straight in eyes and smiling. I thought that it was really awkward because my uncle was there also.. so I went by their table and said hi, and his staring friend who didn't know who I was said "Hi pretty girl please come and join us" or something like that, I was thinking like uhmm really awkward moment, and I just didnt say anything and noticed my uncle looking at him and I said to my uncle "Hi, Chachu, dad asked to say that everyone is in our home tonight so come around 8-9pm" And well that guy went all quiet and didn't look my uncle xD And in evening when my uncle came to our home, he just said to me that his friend asked to apologize =D That was really awkward moment :D
Another story isnt fun but gonna tell it anyway. One day I went to my dads restaurant and well he had new cleaners there and they didnt know me and thought probably that im regular customer. And I saw from far that that cleaner, who was nigerian guy, stared at me like really rudely. And I thought like he was really rude. So I ate and went towards bathroom and he came like really near me and he was like " hi beautiful. whats ur name" "I wanna be ur best best friend and I really love ur lips" And he was staring my lips while talking, I really got scared cause like he was anyway scary looking and came like really close. Then I just turned and start walking and he was like coming behind me and I saw my dad sitting in table and shouted to him "Papa can I use ur computer" And that guy instantly turned around when he realize that who I was. I didn't tell my dad cause I dont want anyone lose job because of me. And I know that my dad would instantly quit his contract if he knows how he behaved and well Im still afraid of that nigerian guy and he like still stares at me head to toes when im there and he is really creepy. But if he comes near me again I will tell my dad. And like I dont mind if someone is ogling me, I just dont look back but his staring its not normal "ogling" he like really stares creepy way and does weird things. And honestly im afraid of him, and if I saw him there I dont want to leave alone there cause Im afraid he is gonna follow... Im paranoid I know :d
