When both husband wife and working and either wife or husband takes control of the house hold income and deprives the other spouse of basic needs then things can really really go wrong. Esp when the victim spouse is being told to keep his/her mouth shut while he/she can see the money being spent on inlaws & other stuff.There is a limit to which one can put up, I always say that even if you hit/slap an the animal would retaliate why do you expect a human to bear it all and does not even allow to say ufff.