You see it as trying to milk both cultures, but another person who is stuck between more than 1 culture likes to embrace the “positive” aspects of both cultures and there is nothing wrong with that, instead of blindly following one culture just because everyone else does it. Again, western culture is more than just the wife working and sharing financial burden with her husband and asian culture is more than only doing khidmat and worshipping of husband and inlaws and sacrificing yourself as wife. You sound quite bitter.
Lol since when did I say desis in general are role models when it comes to respecting boundaries and basic manners?? But again why the need to look at what the majority of other asians do? Asian people’s upbringing in general sucks anyway. Besides, they don’t know any better than to think that their culture is equal to islam which it is not.
All this talk about Desis not having class. I know Desi uncle who thinks he is white and tried to scare people by posting pic of himself in a dark room dressed in only a towel covering his tond. He left behind even those that chew with their mouths full in this race.
Ok, so just to clarify, i do work as a doctor and im decent looking so i wouldn’t say i bring nothing to the table or that im riding two horses at the same time. Not that i think that these things are a prerequisite for wanting a certain amount of privacy. I understand how having a key to the house can be interpreted as having permission to enter a house, however i too have a key to my in laws house but i always call or text beforehand to make sure it is a convenient time to visit. Anyways, so i guess my FIL sensed my discomfort, and he will be coming over when my husband is at home from now on. Which is not what i meant but ok. There is a certain awkwardness between us now which i’ll try my best to take away.
@Kinzz I can be anything but I am not known to have poor manners, be insulting towards other members or downright abusive, unlike some other posters who go about stirring trouble as that was the sole purpose of their existence on these fora!
You are entitled to your opinion, and unlike you I will not be asking you to worry about yourself, I don’t know you at all. And even if I did, I am not nearly as judgmental and condescending.
Na-shukri kee b koi hadh hoti hai. Konsi privacy, kaisi privacy? You already live apart. Have to agree with @Bobby1 1 on this one.
First of all, he’s mehram for you and he’s stopping by to fix things around your house. It’s quite hypocritical of you to complain about him stopping by but having no issues with him working on your things that you/your husband are probably too lazy to do on your own. Or- akelepan ka suna hai? Elders feel alone and they constantly need something to do and someone to meet. He clearly thinks of you as family. So what if he stops by, considering you as his own daughter?
Totally makes sense why so many relationships have lost their charm because of snubs like yourself. It’s so unfortunate that we have so many women being raised this way. You need to do some internal digging into your own character.
ARGH, this post really upset me. I can’t imagine my father, who’s extremely helpful in the same manner, being blabbered about like this. May Allah give your father in law sabr.
