Etiquette when visiting homes

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Kinzz, it seems like we're all very nice mothers, but I can speak for myself, that I've made my share of mistakes and what you usually see on the forum is a final product of many years of experimentation and experience, and even that is questionable! :D

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^ yes I know what you mean like they say * her koi maa ke pait se seekh kar nahi ata *My mom says..a mother need to or she has to learn something new everyday .Here I want to add some..When you go someones home specially when the host don’t have kids please don’t let your kid roam around or ask them for * apke pas yeh hoga hamara bacha to yeh khata hai shok se * trust me Its very annoying …Now my neighbors kid.when ever he come he will run here and there and I have to run after him to watch and make sure he is ok co his mother wud be sitting with her 6 moths old :smack:

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First off, Khalil Khaan, you are welcome in my house ANY time, you should like a fantastic house guest. I practice the same list and I am pleasantly surprised that there are other people who are also courteous like that.

Secondly, Khawateen stole the phrase right out of my mouth. When we visit someone or are even anywhere in public, one of us is always watching laddoo face like a hawk. I mean I will be having a full on conversation with someone with my eyes on the kid. We make sure she doesn't touch ANY thing. She has been taught (successfully) to ask us before she touches something that is NOT a toy. If it's a toy, she can touch it but we're working on having her ask the owner of the toy. When she eats, we make sure she's sitting at table, not making a mess, has enough napkins. I think the last almost three years have been challenging but I think it is paying off now. We can now relax a little bit because we now KNOW that she will be on her best behaviour. I can't believe she's 3 months from being 3 years old, :( what happened to my little baby?

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Once a guest's child was sliding down our staircase on his belly, face first, while holding a cupcake covered in chocolate frosting in his hands!! Although he didnt hurt himself, he easily could have, and he got frosting all over the pale pink carpeting of the stairs. His mom didnt even say anything to him!!

Another time I was at a dawat and one mom was giving her son a timeout, and she put him in the bathroom with the lights off and the door shut! The poor kid was only like 2-4 yrs old I think. And then he managed to lock himself inside the bathroom and the whole house was running around trying to find ways to open the lock, which they finally were able to and rescued the bechara inside

Moral of the story: never do those things at poeople's homes

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hahaha. once an aunty wrapped her kids diaper in a plastic bag and left it under our kitchen table :(

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Kids are kids - some hosts don't understand that and think of them as adults unfairly. A behaved kid is dull and demotivated. Kids should be able to kids things - including crying, breaking things, asking for attention, play, eat sugar. We were all kids once, and should allow them what we may have been deprived of. And no, this would not make a kid labelled by some closed-minded people as "spoilt brats", or parents that can't control kids.... things some people come up with. Having expensive crystal on open display is not a child friendly place, nor going to a fancy restaurant. We just need to adjust and adapt :)

Edit: hubby wrote that - Maheen.

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I hate it when kids are misbehaving and mom and dads dont even say anything balke ulta bache ko pyar karne lag jaate hain. humare waqt main humari himmat nahi hoti thi ke mehmaan ke ghar ja ke badtameezi karain ya agar maa baap ne ek cheez se mana ker diya hai tou us ko dobara karain.

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saying "salam" to all elders.

eating whatever they have made. if cant eat it then politely telling mom/dad rather than saying ewwww yuck etc to the food infront of the host.

not fighting with the host's kids

not making any mess. keeping the area tidy where they have played

eating food with manners not throwing bones, chawal etc on floor

if they have a runny nose then teaching them to wipe it off with a napkin (bohat se bache behti naak ke saath ghoom rahe hote hain aur maa baap dehaan nahi dete)

disposing off the diapers in the bin outside the house not in the bathroom to avoid the smell.

teaching them to not to be stubborn when mom/dad have said something.

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You are kidding,right...??

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Aww she is 3 already...m'A.
I have been told that I was a very well behaved child.My parents always used to get compliments.My mom must have told me well not to touch anything at anyone's house and that I should always ask.She tells me that once when I was almost 3.5 or 4 yrs old we were visiting some friends and I asked the hostess aunty if I can have her permission to open her closet....Ammi must have forgotten to 'specify' closets are totally off limits...:(
P.S....I did not see the aunty's closet although I heard she did say 'yes....:D

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chips - i think he was :D .. or was he? .. well he'd better be!! :D

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Lets hope so...:D

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Now I get it. :smiley:

and even if its a joke and menat to be taken lightly…obviously a lot of parents DO feel this way and take it too far to the fact that they think the world revolves around them and their child…or else we wouldn’t have these experiences everyone is speaking of.

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and to answer the original question, is it bad that I cant remember at all? If I was a good one, bad one etc.....if it was a relatives I would play iwth cousins, but if it was a strangers house, I'd stick close to my mom because I was pretty shy.

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My brother and I were weird children. We'd head straight for the hosts' kid's bookshelves and then sit and read the whole time! We would get lectures on socializing and not reading on the way over haha.

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thank you so much ahmad saab for your kind words :)

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This weekend I accidentally left a dirty diaper on my inlaws’ bathroom sink. :smack:

Had to text SIL quickly when I remembered. :blush: