Re: Engagement to wedding!!! HELP!!
a dholki is an informal gathering of family and friends- theres singing and dancing and sometimes also feeding the bride mithai by the aunties. its basically a pre-party to get everyone in the mood, so really, you can do whatever you want to get people happy and excited.
your sister could wear a pretty shalwar kameez with light kaam on it, or even jeans and a kurti if she feels like it as it is informal.
you can rent a “dhol” usually from indian or pakistani stores. find someone to play it. you can search online and on GS for songs you can sing. you could get a bunch of friends together and practice some dances too- not sure whats in these days in that department, but there are threads around here on similar topics. if the dholki is a couple of days before the engagement, you could also have a mehendi lady come around and do everyone’s hands, or just the bride’s, whatever your preference.
location-wise, you can do it in your own home or in a small hall, depending on the number of guests you have. and of course, you can decorate accordingly with flowers and candles and mirrors and fabric.
aaannnd, thats all i have. haha
also if i’m not mistaken, dholki’s are hosted separately, so her fiance wouldn’t necessarily be there.
there are pictures here: dholki decor - Google Search