I agree with you, that is usually how it is. That isnt how it should be though. It is a progression of better treatment for women, and them being able to have decent education and careers is a good start. Them being able to keep the fruits of their labours is a second.
Some elements of care for children fall into the woman’s lot. Others the male’s.
I know families in our culture where that has been the case to a large extent, including my own.
Completely unsubstantiated and unjustified statement, and the converse in my experience. Women who grow up working hard to achieve excellence in their education do not suddenly confine their ambitions to whatever their family members appreciate. Invariably a majority or parity of students who top their school/college boards in Pakistan is female. Most students in our highly competitive medical schools are also female. These kids do not merely wish to get appreciation from family husbands/prospective husbands. It is a shame that you confine their skills, ambitions and thought processes to domestic bliss.
To give an example from my family, my mother who topped boards in Karachi all her life and paid her way through college to a Masters via scholarships because her parents wouldnt have paid for a girl had to overcome the reluctance of my father to let her work. and even then had to have her ambitions circumscribed to a work socially more acceptable (teaching). The latter is a tragedy, and should never have happened.
In Pakistan it is more likely to find men insecure about letting women work because they worry about what people will think about them as providers. It is an ignorant and male oriented line of thinking. Why should what women wish to achieve be judged in very male oriented views of “providing”?
I dont think the emancipation itself is a sugar coated poison to entrap her. She may not be free from certain forms of subjugation however I dont really see why the emancipation is to be blamed for any of them.