In societies like Pakistan even if a woman is financially supporting a family, she still has to, and generally is expected to, fulfill all other responsibilities that are accepted as norms. For example she has to prepare breakfast for the members of the family that may include MIL and FIL and/or a few other extended family members. She has to arrange for lunch and supper, make sure cleanliness of home, and kids. She has to make sure that all the social relations that might be to primary to her husband and secondary to her are given equal or better attention. She hardly gets any appreciation for financial support, hardly ever gets appreciation for making up and taking care of the family unit.
I agree with you, that is usually how it is. That isnt how it should be though. It is a progression of better treatment for women, and them being able to have decent education and careers is a good start. Them being able to keep the fruits of their labours is a second.
Some elements of care for children fall into the woman's lot. Others the male's.
I know families in our culture where that has been the case to a large extent, including my own.
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One can argue that it is easy for a working lady to arrange for a mate or servant, a butler and a sweeper for all the responsibilities, fact of the matter is that in a vast majority of such households where first lady of the house is working is not because of a need is appreciated by the woman herself to use her skills or to pursue a career, it is rather a mutual appreciation of family members that it is imperative for the woman to help and support working male of the family to keep up with the living standards.
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Completely unsubstantiated and unjustified statement, and the converse in my experience. Women who grow up working hard to achieve excellence in their education do not suddenly confine their ambitions to whatever their family members appreciate. Invariably a majority or parity of students who top their school/college boards in Pakistan is female. Most students in our highly competitive medical schools are also female. These kids do not merely wish to get appreciation from family husbands/prospective husbands. It is a shame that you confine their skills, ambitions and thought processes to domestic bliss.
To give an example from my family, my mother who topped boards in Karachi all her life and paid her way through college to a Masters via scholarships because her parents wouldnt have paid for a girl had to overcome the reluctance of my father to let her work. and even then had to have her ambitions circumscribed to a work socially more acceptable (teaching). The latter is a tragedy, and should never have happened.
In Pakistan it is more likely to find men insecure about letting women work because they worry about what people will think about them as providers. It is an ignorant and male oriented line of thinking. Why should what women wish to achieve be judged in very male oriented views of "providing"?
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I will comment on the rest of your your reply later. How about emancipation of a western lady, is she really free from all forms of subjugations, or this slogan is a sugar coted poison to entrap her?
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I dont think the emancipation itself is a sugar coated poison to entrap her. She may not be free from certain forms of subjugation however I dont really see why the emancipation is to be blamed for any of them.