Re: Earning more than husband
Like PCG said...try to use your own money to buy your own little luxuries so he has more room to work with in his own salary. Try not to spend too much when you're with him and shop on your own when you're buying things like makeup, perfume, etc.
As for sending money, its upto you. It is your money and you can do as you wish with it. If you feel your inlaws are suffering and need your money, then I guess sending it is not a bad idea...your husband will love you more for it.
The rumors are to be ignored and given no weight...ignore ignore ignore. Do not acknowledge these comments when they're made to you, pretend like you didnt even hear them. That will send a strong and clear message that its none of anyone's business what your spending habits are. Them spreading rumors doesnt make it true nor does it affect your pocketbook...........so why care???
Also MIA made some very good suggestions about savings and such.