Re: Don't discard it, we'll send/take it to Pakistan!
These days everyone in Pakistan has access to pretty much the same stuff we do ...and most of my cousins have the latest designer wear ...so my old stuff would not really be acceptable! I went last year and took a whole buch of Revlon cosmetics for the ladies... one lady told me I could give it to someone else because she uses only MAC and Bourjious!! This year I refuse to take gifts...I will just give them money or take them shopping in Pak!
And yeah...cell phones are MUCH MUCH better in Pakistan, they laugh at the selection we have in North America!
Re: Don't discard it, we'll send/take it to Pakistan!
It makes sense if you let your relatives know that following are the used items to be donated to appropriate charities and if they like anything, they should take it, rather than passing it down to others as side-presents.
Re: Don't discard it, we'll send/take it to Pakistan!
Here is where I stand, I am not a personal shopper for people and dont know who would like what, I dont have money growing on trees. For people I am close to, I wil buy them something they would really like, for the rest zero, zilch nada.
I cant understand when i see people buying crap for others just for khanna purri and to have something. I mean why even do that... its the thought that counts what kinda thought goes into buying crap just because.
I would rather have idiots be pissed off because I did not give them anything rather then be pissed off because I got them something they did not like. For those sort of people it is not worth my time or my dime to get them anything.
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I take all my old clothes and other used items back home to give them to edhi, but relatives no way, that is just plain disrespectful.
I remember how one time our relatives gave me and my brother two shirts when they came to our house and although my ammi accepted them at the time she had a big fight once they were gone with my father, coz they were his relatives. The shirts were of a quality they knew we will not wear and they themselves didnt wear such quality. My mother thought that they disrespected.
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hmm… if its in excellent state and too expensive to just throw away or give to charity.. we do hand things down to relatives.. but not as gifts… we usually tell them the things are used.. then if they want.. they can have them.. i think it also depends on what u give and how u give it… mom always explains the reason why she lugged the stuff over to pakiland to give to relatives rather than to charity where we live cuz the things were expensive, not worn that much (most of the time, not at all )… so if you dont find it disrespectful, you can have it… either way.. no worries… all our relatives are well off.. but they still dont mind taking stuff from mom cuz they know it aint crap…
i on the other hand find it absolutely idiotic.. we will have 1 suitcase with stuff we will be needing.. and the remaning 4 suitcases will be full of things to give away.. by the end of it all.. mom will be fighting to fit in the proper gifts we got everyone… no way im lugging all that crap just to give away… if it were left to me.. i would give it to charity where i live… kaun paray iss jhamalay mein
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Yeah I’d like to do that, give just a few of my cousins special stuff, but my mom tells me then everyone will start bitching that “oh hers is nicer why didn’t u get me that” blah blah blah so there’s no point.. same thing in whenever we go out, if i take one person i hav to take another and if i take that other i hav to take another and so on and so on. So my mom goes to wholesale stores and buys a bunch of lipsticks and hair clips and chappals for cheap… its not like we hav money growing either to spend so damn much on a new nice thing for every single person.
Waisey i’ve gotten some tacky gifts before and I told the person as much.
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Fraudz, I'd love to do what you do, but if we don't take presents with us even though the relatives always end up finding keeray in them or complaining for more, I'm sure it would cause a riot during our stay. Otherwise, I would have to agree that it's not worth taking any presents for some relatives.
ashtray, this reminds me of how this one relative we have who almost always gets us new clothes as presents, but you can easily tell she's getting'em from sales or discounted places because there's almost always something wrong with it. Either it's too short, too long, or too big. She even has admitted once that she has gotten'em from sales. I find it outright disrespectful that you get others presents that aren't even their size only because you could find'em cheaper at a sale.
khawateen, taking 4 suitcases is not a bad idea actually. Many desi families dump all the old clothes and bring back new stuff.
Re: Don't discard it, we'll send/take it to Pakistan!
sadiyah and sara
point is that ppl who like to bitch and moan will do it regardless, I would rather spend the same money to buy a few good things for a few ppl i like, get along with and who would appreciate it.
People want to complain, let them, why waste your money, energy or time on them?
