talk to her.
yes.
Tekno instead of continuing to act all cool, macho and unaffected try to find out what the cause of her behaviour is. There has got to be a reason.
Madhanee, seems like you are willing to die with a sausage in your hands more than any of us.
ANd if there is absolutely no reason and she is doing it just to give you a tough time then give her a final warning. If that doesn;t work then save yourself the headache and part ways.
communication is the key. ask her what her problem is and let her know how you feel.
faints
Madhanee is making sense? Wow.
:k:
I say ‘screw you’ to your BS feminazi thinking. It’s not about being insensitive towards women. Some women are inherently ‘unhappy’ and love to spread their ills to us men. I said NO to that shiit before and will continue to do so.
JUST SAY NO TO NAGGING is my slogan.
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I say 'screw you' to your BS feminazi thinking. It's not about being insensitive towards women. Some women are inherently 'unhappy' and love to spread their ills to us men. I said NO to that shiit before and will continue to do so.
JUST SAY NO TO NAGGING is my slogan.
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FG you are contradicting yourself. You believe all women are inherently unhappy and naggers. You woman hater!
In any relationship after a little while most often than not all the good things are taken for granted and the bad ones pop out and become the crux of it all. As humans we always want MORE.
teKno, have you done the 5 minute time out routine? Where you listen to the other for 5 minutes without interruption and then do the same? It needs practice but it works better than sulking on your own.
^^The experienced one speaks :D
wat did u do to make her say that?
women dont say stuff for no reason
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wimin are kind of weird tho - they want to be pampered 24/7
we men
buy flowers for them
open doors for them
pay to dine with them
gift them
keep up with their stupid petty issues
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I did all that for my ex and he told me to get outta his face...he'd have mood swings, slam the fone on me and act like a real brat.
Never let any man spend a dime on me...coz I never want them to ever think I'm in it for the "benfits".
Somehow you guys think you have "leverage" when you spend money on us..and when you can't find one then you feel intimidated.
What happened to the love, care, respect and such?
Tekno–Im sure things are better by now.
we're just moody, men should understand that
and well we just expect men to kno what we pisst about. that's just how we are
btw tekno we don't go around showing this side to just anyone, we show it to the ones very near and dear to us. cuz we know they love us and would understand this side and be wid us thru good times n bad....no? :)
constant complains , we are supposed to know all the choices and everything without they directly telling us and constant tests if we are actually theirs i mean cmon if the guy is spending so much time wid u and doing so much for we have to go thru the constant testing to prove our love and faithfullness 
^ its because there are too many jerks out there, so we have to do vigorous screen-testing.
alright even after 3 friggin yrs 
Most of it does stem from insecurity. What you said abt knowing that the moodswings are fake, well I cant say that mine are. The way I see it, being in a relationship is a first. In the sense that there can only be one 'real thing' and if you've found it then both of you will be experiencing and growing through completely new circumstances, all firsts for both of you since, if youve been in relationships before, you never felt exactly this committed before, and if you havent then duh. :)..
It's difficult to cope with feelings of insecurity when they arise. It's difficult to deal with core issues should they arise. The smallest of things might lead to questioning abt other things. If certain things seem to have died out for example, slowly and steadily, I wonder what itll be like ten twenty years more down the line. Whenever I show a 'mood swing' (I am so completely against this word. Somehow it seems to have evolved to apply only on the female sex. But both genders 'feel' dont they? kher..that we address another time.) I so completely mean it. It's not fake. It's how I am feeling and I'm acting out and expressing it. Usually it comes on because of some intangible reason, some half formed thought..maybe remnants of a dream that my subconcious is niggling me with, but if my fiance would be completely oblivious to it, I'm pretty sure it would escalate to something worse. Because the anxiety I feel would keep growing. Usually thankfully (mashallah mashallah) he soothes me whenever Im feeling down and makes me feel loved enough till I get over it.
Everyone here is chastising women(WIMIN) for their moodswings and apparent lack of input into a relationship. Every guy seems to feel injured and hurt in some way(crass mention of sausages). And yet if youve ever been in a relationship, I cannot believe that there was nothing good in the girl. Nothing good is going extreme, I cannot believe that if you found 'the real thing' that there was so much wrong with her. Why? Cos God knows, I give my fiance hell when these moments of insecurity come along and when I get scared. But God also knows how very much I adore him. More than anyone else. And how utterly dependant I am on him and us. And most of the time I do try to keep communicating that to him cos truly, I just want to make him happy. Bottomline, end of the day, if I am to accomplish nothing else in life, I want to see him happy, and know that I was the reason for it. And should the situations arise, I'd make any sacrifice required, personal or otherwise, to ensure that happens.
As for the 'get out of my face' remark. I've many times during fights wanted to run away and be alone. But I'd be hurting so badly. He never let me be alone. Always forced us to have it out till my tears subsided. And I always felt better and loved him more for it. So don't completely ignore her when she is this way. Don't be put off when she pushes you away. I don't know why exactly we get insecure..maybe its gotten something to do with her past, family life or general view of things in the world. But people only get insecure over things we cherish and never want to lose..dont they?
Believe me she needs you most when she is trying you. When she is testing you. We push to see how far youd go. Whether youd leave. Sometimes we push for your benefit. So that if you do want to go youd have reason to. Seriously..its sad its crazy but we do it out of love..grudgingly yes..hence it comes out in a bad weird way where halfway through we want to yank you back somehow.
Oh and its not screentesting after three years, its allowing u guys a chance to rethink it and take an out if you want one, in case you feel compelled by the 3 years to stay on against your will. Among other things naturally..
Kher..:) I can go on and on. Bottom line is, if it is the real thing, then just hold her..love her..these things will pass. But youll be hardput to find anyone else on earth whod love u so very selflessly.
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haha this is funny