Re: Does anyone else notice it becomes easier to fight as the relationship progresses
^yeah, that's what I'm starting to believe myself at this point.
Re: Does anyone else notice it becomes easier to fight as the relationship progresses
Same thing happened with us. First year of the relationship, no fighting at all. Then the next few years had their ups and downs, but overall they were okay. Then, recently, we had 6 months where we fought more than all the previous 5 years of the relationship combined!! I thought he used to be more patient as well but he tends to snap quicker and is much less likely to say sorry now.
I find that a lot of that is also due to external stresses..he had a lot of worries and frustrations in his life at the time and they all came out during our fights. As the relationship progresses further, you need to change how you communicate. You’re not gonna communicate the same way years into the relationship as you did during the honeymoon stage. And it’s true, I’m finding that I have to be the more flexible one…but my mother tells my that as a woman you kind of naturally progress to that point. I dunno.
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^Thank you, I think I needed to hear that. How are you guys doing now? The thing is, we're so silly and we don't want breaks or time apart (so obviously breaking up is not even an option) but this kind of stuff can put your relationship in a funk, and you know exactly what I'm talking about.
How do you communicate now compared to before? Did you ever think how tough things will get if he stays this way after getting married and all the things you'll have to put up with then? And then you wouldn't have a choice but to put up with it anyway.
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Maybe you should spend less time with him. You aren't married yet, so keep a distance maybe?
Re: Does anyone else notice it becomes easier to fight as the relationship progresses
novelty wears off.
Re: Does anyone else notice it becomes easier to fight as the relationship progresses
novelty wears off.
Pretty much.
Maybe you should spend less time with him. You aren't married yet, so keep a distance maybe?
Nope, not married yet. And it's probably too much distance that is causing this, being more closer would actually help in my case. Unfortunately it's not possible at this time so we have to rely on other things in coping w/ the distance.
Re: Does anyone else notice it becomes easier to fight as the relationship progresses
I think as relationship progresses, couples fight less and less. They start understanding each other better. Its the first few years of marriage that are always difficult because you don't know how it is to live with each other, listening to someone else's opinion all the time, their views etc. As years pass by, its easier because some couples would start thinking alike and learn to agree on other's opinions. Children also make it a little bit easier for "some" couple because they also have someone else in their life to share everything with and spend time with.
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^what do you classify as the "first few years"? Does it include the beginning of your relationship + engagement and THEN the first few years of marriage?
Re: Does anyone else notice it becomes easier to fight as the relationship progresses
Of course engagement time is important (if you are engaged). You get to know the person and how their views are different from yours but I really think its the time after marriage, when you really start living with someone, you truly get to know the person. In engagement period, some guys act like they don't value your opinion, but they are totally different when you start living with them.
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M was here, I just sent you two private messages. Let me know if they went through
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i dont know. we are romantic and fight like its our first and last day on earth. only rule - no weapons, and only one bite per day.
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That’s a relief, actually. I just sometimes think what if guys put on the best face possible and pull off their mask after you’re married knowing they have you…trapped? lol. :halo:
Just replied! Thank you so much! 
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Re: Does anyone else notice it becomes easier to fight as the relationship progresses
aah! true that as the time passes the frankness grows and we end up saying everything we feel(good and bad both) and everything we think.
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^Yup, it’s definitely the “frankness”. Having a bit of formality helps but I can’t stand formality between partners, it just wouldn’t work for me. 
Re: Does anyone else notice it becomes easier to fight as the relationship progresses
"And it's probably too much distance that is causing this, being more closer would actually help in my case. Unfortunately it's not possible at this time so we have to rely on other things in coping w/ the distance."
This is a good sign. Looks like you two are not in the same town/city and dont see each other often. So you miss each other. The stress builds - and you take it out on each other.
Just shows you guys care. Hopefully you dont have to wait much longer to live under the same rook (after marriage of course). In the meantime, if you live close to family, spend time with them - you may not get as much time after marriage.
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^:hugz:
Yup, studies and other responsibilities have made it a LDR for a bit so that is definitely creeping in on us both but obviously we’ve made it happily through several years and neither of us would just throw it away like that. I guess I was just being agitated. And possible Aunt Flo is about to visit, ahem.