Specially since most people always compare me with my sister who is thinner , fairer and prettier ( star plus please contact me )! If tht were not enuff , my mother refuses to age and is the prettiest by far!!!!
And jale pe namak : I have hyper-pigmentation !!! ( before that I was average to good looking)
But my looks were never a hindrance to anything !!
when people compliment me by saying you're beautiful or you're so pretty i usually become suspicious of them and wonder what they want. totally wrong of me and i am confident about my looks, it's just a knee-jerk reaction, i need to be more trusting of others.
i am heavenly blessed with health MA.... and i am just an OK looking girl but my husband and father says you are the prettiest.... so along my dad and husband i am the prettiest :")
I think I'm pretty. But I do have my days...some days I look a little more, and some days I look a little less. But overall, I am happy with what I look like, Alhamdulillah. And my husband thinks Im beautiful (and I think my husband is super handsome!), so thats all that really matters.
None do I feel sorry for more than the ones who rate God's creation
Its very subjective. What may look beautiful to one may not be so to the other eyes.
I don't think any one here is thankless for what they've been given. Its just a perspective!
am i the only one who gets frustrated at this wishy washy cliched clap trap about beauty being in the eyes of the beholder ?
why are some people so reluctant to admit the reality. We KNOW when we see a goodlooking/hot person and we KNOW when we come across an unattractive one. but some of us cant help but say "dont say he/she is unattractive...s(he) will be attractive to SOMEBODY"
yes, there is the difference. a goodlooking person is attractive to the vast majority of people...but an unattractive person is only attractive to ONE person...or maybe two. if thats the case I want to be the 'attractive' thats attractive to more people !
now get this...the beauty in the eye of the beholder crap only stands true when we compare people who are very close in attractiveness; not when we compare a goodlooking person and an obviously unattractive one. so when we compare say a young Brad Pitt & George Clooney, it will come down to a matter of preference bcos both are very goodlooking men. it might be a pretty even split. but when we compare Brad Pitt and Danny Devito, the beauty in the eye of beholder wont stand true. 99.9% of people will say Brad Pitt is more attractive.
having said that i understand this will fall on deaf ears and some people will still say "so what...maybe the wife of Danny Devito finds him attractive"
its impossible to hold any discussion with those type of people
do you know what 6/10 means ?
it means you are in the 60th percentile in terms of looks. ie better looking than 60% of young adult women.
so are you sure about that assessment ? because most people think the scale begins at 5 !
I tend to follow the relative scale of 10 to rate the looks.
most people follow an absolute scale whereby they assign an arbitrary score based on their assessment of a persons attractiveness.
so its like "omg..she's so hot...she's a perfect 10 !" which isnt impossible bcos no one can be a 10 on the relative scale. at the same time someone has to be a 3, a 2 and a 1.
this scale tends to be relatively accurate and most people tend to come up with similar assessments of peoples attractiveness.
i personally rate myself at 4.5 which means i consider myself to be better looking than 45% of young adult men.
In our search of unattainable success we’ve convinced ourselves that what we’re doing is unique, the best, and entirely perfect. My case and point: American Idol. The most interesting parts of the show are, arguably, the auditions to be on the show. We find more entertainment watching our peers fail, than any real success and in the end we feel by watching those fail it elevates our own abilities. After watching 3,000 people fail to sing a song in any human key, our abilities as a singer is psychologically elevated despite not having changed at all. The Self-Empowering Delusion. You view something negatively and apply it to your own life for positive empowerment thinking, “At least I’m better than those people.” Failing to realize those people are far below the average (they would never put average talent on television.) Eventually you equal out to average, or below average but slightly above being the absolute worst. You have convinced yourself you’re not mediocre, but above average. The average actually being the below-average.
The same applies for beauty, our perception of our own attractiveness is way above what it actually should be. I don’t remember the exact study but scientists asked 100 people to rate their attractiveness on a scale of 1-10, something like 80% ranked themselves 7’s. Delusion of the highest order, the other 15% ranked themselves 8’s and 9’s. No one ranked themselves perfect, but no one ranked themselves a 5 either. Everyone is above-average, making the average…completely skewed.