Do you hate or love your relatives?

[annymou5]

i dont love any of them both momz and dad's side... but i dont hate them too....

i had a huge distance between my dad's side and now mom side too....

i think the closer u get ..... ther are more chances that u might get hurt....
so i learned my lesson and now i am staying away frm my inlaws too....

baas dur dur se hi hello hi hai ..... i have no desire to get close to any of them...
accept my grandma..... she had been through so much in life.... i love her more then anything in this world.....
May Allah give her long and healthy life... ameen

[Gr8Heera]

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No matter what my relatives did to use. I don't care about that. I love them very much. I think what they do will get reward on their beharviour. They wil take that behaviour to their grave not to mine. I'll take my behaviour to my grave. So why I would behave same as they behave to me. That is my logic.

Ppl and my family members, brothers ans sisters and parents say you are such a fool. Don't you remember what they did to us. How could I forget th pain they gave us whole life in which I'm mostly hurt. They keep asking me why you keep contact to those ghatia ppl and they still keep hurting you.

Yes I'm fool will because I don't want and expect reward from my relatives but only from Allah.

As I read in quran. According to my own understanding.

Aur jis ko hum nain joray rakhnay ka kaha hay us ko tor daltay ho yani rishtaydaron say talluq.

I don't want to cut off the link from my relative no matter how much they hurt me. As I'll get reward for this from my Beloved Allah.

Ppl don't understand my logic. They make fun of me. They say things to me that hurts. They keep reminding me what they did. It's all very painful. Ppl around me keep tonting me. I wan't to bear al the pain in order to make Allah happy. PPl to kabhi khush naheen hotay khuwaah unkay liaay kuch bhi kar lo.

[redvelvet]

No matter what my relatives did to use. I don't care about that. I love them very much. I think what they do will get reward on their beharviour. They wil take that behaviour to their grave not to mine. I'll take my behaviour to my grave. So why I would behave same as they behave to me. That is my logic.

Ppl and my family members, brothers ans sisters and parents say you are such a fool. Don't you remember what they did to us. How could I forget th pain they gave us whole life in which I'm mostly hurt. They keep asking me why you keep contact to those ghatia ppl and they still keep hurting you.

Yes I'm fool will because I don't want and expect reward from my relatives but only from Allah.

As I read in quran. According to my own understanding.

Aur jis ko hum nain joray rakhnay ka kaha hay us ko tor daltay ho yani rishtaydaron say talluq.

I don't want to cut off the link from my relative no matter how much they hurt me. As I'll get reward for this from my Beloved Allah.

Ppl don't understand my logic. They make fun of me. They say things to me that hurts. They keep reminding me what they did. It's all very painful. Ppl around me keep tonting me. I wan't to bear al the pain in order to make Allah happy. PPl to kabhi khush naheen hotay khuwaah unkay liaay kuch bhi kar lo.

Gr8Heera,

You're a very strong person, MashaAllah. It takes a lot more courage to display patience and endure/maintain ties of kinship even when relatives let you down and show their insincerity/true colors. Islamically, it's strongly urged to maintain ties of kinship. So, continue keeping in touch with relatives, but maybe keep them at some distance. You can forgive people for hurting you, but you should learn a lesson from their bad behavior. And those lessons can be 1) not to make the same mistakes they did and 2) Not becoming a victim of their abuse the next time.

I don't think there's anything wrong at keeping people at a distance, it's not like you're breaking ties. And it can restore your peace of mind and keep you away from unnecessary stress. It's gunnah to oppress others and its gunnah to put your soul in oppression as well....so be polite/respectful BUT DON'T get too close/attached. Continue helping others from the goodness of your heart and seek your reward from Allah, don't expect it from others:)

[Iggle]

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G8H - you are very strong Marshallah.

I love my relatives.

[Maha_Shonu]

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i like them all... there mite be a kid or an aunty here or t here that i aint too fond of, but in general i like them all.. my parents have always taught us to not to be too close to be able to fite and not too be too far to kno some one.. i think its worked for us.. hence Alls good.. :D

[Gr8Heera]

Gr8Heera,

You're a very strong person, MashaAllah. It takes a lot more courage to display patience and endure/maintain ties of kinship even when relatives let you down and show their insincerity/true colors. Islamically, it's strongly urged to maintain ties of kinship. So, continue keeping in touch with relatives, but maybe keep them at some distance. You can forgive people for hurting you, but you should learn a lesson from their bad behavior. And those lessons can be 1) not to make the same mistakes they did and 2) Not becoming a victim of their abuse the next time. I don't think there's anything wrong at keeping people at a distance, it's not like you're breaking ties. And it can restore your peace of mind and keep you away from unnecessary stress. It's gunnah to oppress others and its gunnah to put your soul in oppression as well....so be polite/respectful BUT DON'T get too close/attached. Continue helping others from the goodness of your heart and seek your reward from Allah, don't expect it from others:)

Thanks Velvet. Great advice. I used to get hurt and lots of stress then one person told me same what you said plus why you keep contact with them if they constantly hurt you there is no need. I said no I won't cut contact. Since when I started to have a distance no more stress.

My problem is I don't say anthing back to those ppl and they keep saying things which hurt. One day ther person who adviced me you anwere them back. I can't say so I text the truth to let them khow about the thing they were lying to me. I just asked questions. What happened they get mad and said Rishta khatam whe died for you then on eid day I called and said eid mubarak and asked forgiveness that person too. I said I don't want to cut off relationship. I just want to say things and don't want to cut off. That person didn't answer my questions I knew. Now things become normal now that person don't say things to hurt me. I also kept distance. It worked fine.

G8H - you are very strong Marshallah.

I love my relatives.

Thanks dear friendy. My problem is I can't stay Angry to anyone even from my enemy too. They know that very well. What I say to myself tum dushmani kartay raho main muhabbat nichawar karta rahoon ga. Apni mohabbat aur khuloos say main tumhari nafrat ko hara doon ga. 1 day Insha Allah.

i like them all... there mite be a kid or an aunty here or t here that i aint too fond of, but in general i like them all.. my parents have always taught us to not to be too close to be able to fite and not too be too far to kno some one.. i think its worked for us.. hence Alls good.. :D

Zabardast thing your parents taught you. My parents didn't teach anything what to do and how to deal with ppl. What I saw my mom did to everyone no matter what harm they did she kept loving them and doing good for them.

[Lush-Beauty]

LB why don't you just tell us what you hate about them? So we can hate them too.

what should i tell?
they say you can choose your friends but not relatives. so meaning whether you like it or not, you basically have no choice with them. if u like ur relatives thn it doesnt mean evry one likes their relatives.it doesnt mean i hate them or some thing/i jst asked general question

i neither love or hate , aaj kal mobile ka zamana so its pay as you go .....

lol pay as you go

No matter what my relatives did to use. I don't care about that. I love them very much. I think what they do will get reward on their beharviour. They wil take that behaviour to their grave not to mine. I'll take my behaviour to my grave. So why I would behave same as they behave to me. That is my logic.

Ppl and my family members, brothers ans sisters and parents say you are such a fool. Don't you remember what they did to us. How could I forget th pain they gave us whole life in which I'm mostly hurt. They keep asking me why you keep contact to those ghatia ppl and they still keep hurting you.

Yes I'm fool will because I don't want and expect reward from my relatives but only from Allah.

As I read in quran. According to my own understanding.

Aur jis ko hum nain joray rakhnay ka kaha hay us ko tor daltay ho yani rishtaydaron say talluq.

I don't want to cut off the link from my relative no matter how much they hurt me. As I'll get reward for this from my Beloved Allah.

Ppl don't understand my logic. They make fun of me. They say things to me that hurts. They keep reminding me what they did. It's all very painful. Ppl around me keep tonting me. I wan't to bear al the pain in order to make Allah happy. PPl to kabhi khush naheen hotay khuwaah unkay liaay kuch bhi kar lo.

Wow, u r realy strong nd humble man
If u dunt giv bk the same 2 those who hurt u.
I do try myself to not give bk and hurt any one.
i dunt feel comfortable if some one is angry wiv me
i like 2 keep evry one happy from my side.

i like them all... there mite be a kid or an aunty here or t here that i aint too fond of, but in general i like them all.. my parents have always taught us to not to be too close to be able to fite and not too be too far to kno some one.. i think its worked for us.. hence Alls good.. :D

I dislike my dad's side but i like my mum's side.over all my parents taught us the same to not to be to close or to na to be to far.so lil distances r bettr.

[Gr8Heera]

Wow, u r realy strong nd humble man If u dunt giv bk the same 2 those who hurt u. I do try myself to not give bk and hurt any one. i dunt feel comfortable if some one is angry wiv me i like 2 keep evry one happy from my side.

I dislike my dad's side but i like my mum's side.over all my parents taught us the same to not to be to close or to na to be to far.so lil distances r bettr.

Thanks LB

I can't feel comfortable when someone is angry with me.

As I read a Hadith few days ago.

Raat ko sonay say pehlay sub ko maaf kar kay so.

I forgive ppl right away or after sometime.

[meena_s]

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nothing about love or hate, this is a reality that we are from their blood, as so..... nothing can depart us... achhay buray log her jaga hotay hain, kuch achhay bhi hain kuch buray bhi, bas Allah ki khushnudi keliye sabse milna chahye, k Allah ko ye baat pasand hay ke maira banda apni napasandeedgi ke aagay mairee pasand ko tarjeeh daita hay, apnay main dekhen to hum khud bhi koi perfect nahin, kisi k liye hum sari dunya hain to kisi ko humse bepanah nafrat b hi hosakti hay... bus aakhirat ke liye shayad huquuq-ul-ibaad hi kaam aajae, as Allah said, main huquq-ul-Allah to maaf kardunga, lakin huquq-ul-ibaad nahin!!!

Allah ham sab ki maghfirat farmaae, Ameen. :)

[Gr8Heera]

nothing about love or hate, this is a reality that we are from their blood, as so..... nothing can depart us... achhay buray log her jaga hotay hain, kuch achhay bhi hain kuch buray bhi, bas Allah ki khushnudi keliye sabse milna chahye, k Allah ko ye baat pasand hay ke maira banda apni napasandeedgi ke aagay mairee pasand ko tarjeeh daita hay, apnay main dekhen to hum khud bhi koi perfect nahin, kisi k liye hum sari dunya hain to kisi ko humse bepanah nafrat b hi hosakti hay... bus aakhirat ke liye shayad huquuq-ul-ibaad hi kaam aajae, as Allah said, main huquq-ul-Allah to maaf kardunga, lakin huquq-ul-ibaad nahin!!!

Allah ham sab ki maghfirat farmaae, Ameen. :)

Zabardast. masha Allah.

[meena_s]

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:)

[meena_s]

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believe me, saari hidayat Allah hi ki hay, wohi hidayat dene wala hay, varna hum to khataawaar hain!

[Gr8Heera]

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Saahi Baat hai. Masha Allah.

[InToXiCaTeD]

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I have't seen any trouble-free family so far. There is always some evil chachi/aunty, some zameen/property problem or some 'rishta politics' or even conflicts at a relative's death over who should have served the food etc ........ Some things are so childish that you wonder what kind of an example your elders are setting for you. And no its not that I have bad company ............ its what you can see around in desi people and mostly in Pak.

[Gr8Heera]

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Sometimes problems are more than that you mentioned.

Agree sometimes relatives do very childish things too.

[Lush-Beauty]

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^^ I agree
as Gr8 mentioned there a lot of **Never Ending **probs

[DOVE]

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I hate my ''chachi'' very much. She is really a ''laraka'' woman. We used to live in a joint family with my ''chacha and chachi'' but have now separated bcz of that ''F-16 Fighter
Aurat''. She considers herself ''MISS WORLD''. I really hate her.

[Lush-Beauty]

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Only F16 —i think Chachi 420

[Pareezay]

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Hate is a very strong word.. I dislike a few of them.. and alot of them have lost my respect.

[Milly]

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I sometimes dislike some of them. Never the rich ones though, might meed them someday :D

I try not to get involved with their lives so they dont get involved with mine. Family is family though, will always be there for you no matter what. Mine is, anyway.